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Our Dearest Stephie

Stephie

You didn't really think you could post that and not have us respond did you, lass?

Stephie, the feeling of never doing anything right is something I'm very familiar with. It's a feeling that's been at the forefront of my mind all day. Hmmmm.....wonder if there was something in our cocoa-puffs...

I have to keep reminding myself that most of the times when I think people are upset with me, they really aren't. And I think the same is true for you.

Yep, you and Noel are alike in that, Stephie. You guys make a plan and path it out as to when everything is supposed to happen. And then when it doesn't work out exactly like you planned, you guys get upset because expectations were not met. And it's not other people's expectations I'm talking about either, it's yours.

You put so much pressure on yourself to have everything perfect, that when it doesn't go as perfect as you wanted, you automatically see it as a failure and you forget to look at what you did accomplish. And because you see it as a failure and because you are so upset with yourself, you automatically assume that everyone else around you will be too. And most of the time, that's just not the case.

I've found that a lot of times, when people appear upset, it's not because they are upset with you, its because they are upset for you. Like, maybe they want to help, but they don't know how. Or maybe they want to encourage you, but they don't know what to say. And...one of the biggest ones...they get upset because you're upset. They know that you blame yourself for anything and everything that goes wrong, they know that when you do that, it makes you upset. And seeing you that upset, seeing you beat yourself up like that, it makes them upset because they love you.

You know how when your Mistresses get upset, you do too? Not because anything was done to you, but because it upsets you to see them angry or hurt or sad? People feel the same thing with you. Anytime your upset, it upsets them because they care. They aren't upset at you, baby, just at the situation.

And yes, the effort is far more important than the results. Remember, what Triston says, lass? When you stop trying, that's when the problem begins. You won't stop trying, Stephie. It ain't in you. You aren't a quitter, lass.

And all of us see that your trying, sweetie and we're all so proud of the progress you've made. If you don't hear it often enough, then we'll say more and keep on saying it until you do.

And if we do appear mad at you, let us know. Conk us on the head if you have to and remind us that you are trying and that's all that matters. It's something we always try to remember, but hey, we're like you, we make mistakes. :;grin::

Okay, now, I've read your view on our group and what you think we contribute. Now, I'd like to tell you mine. I'm the bare-bones, say it like it is, so forgive me if I lack a little class.

I agree...Noel is the one who keeps the household running. She's the one that makes sure the bills are paid, the lights stay on and there's food on the table. Noel is the one we all run to when there's a disagreement. We come to her for advice when we don't' know what to do, for information when we want to learn and to settle arguments that arise in day to day living.

Kia's the gravity of the group. I think you're right...She keep us all grounded. She hates drama and has little to no patience for it. And lets face it, with a house full of girls, there's always bound to be some drama. Like you said, its easy for her to separate fact from fiction because fact is all she knows. And we all need that cus the rest of us are drawn to fiction and drama like bees are to honey.

But, let's be honest about one thing Stephie.....I have never in my entire life said, "This is how it is and if you don't like it, too bad." ::grins:: I say "It is what it is. Deal with it."

LMAO, talk about semantics. If Triston's reading this, he's probably shaking his head and either tsking or laughing his ass off.

Cass, your the superhero.

The superhero?

Yep, your the one we all go to when things go really really bad. You protect us from unwanted attention outside of the house. your kinda like Batman, where they shine his symbol in the sky and he swoops down, kicks butt then goes back to his daily life like nothing just happened. Oh and plus... well...come on Stephie...where else will you get someone locking your doors for you with a big stick in their hand? :;giggles:;

Well, I guess that would make you the Carebear. This lass, is the one that we go to when we need an extra hug or one more I love you before bed. And she's always smiling. I thinks she smiles in her sleep. And she's always calm. I've only seen her really upset once, and even then she was in total control.......never raised her voice, point a finger, stamped a foot...just the smile was gone and the cutest littlest pout was in it's place.

And you Stephie....your the glue, not anyone else. You were the one who brought us all together, remember? You are our common link. Without you, we wouldn't be where we are right now, learning together in the same place. And besides, if your gone, who am I going to turn to when all the men come over and I get freaked out?

You're a lot more like the rest of us than you think, lass. You are strong, one of the strongest people I know. Just because your method of protecting those you love is different than everybody, doesn't make you any weaker. In fact, in my case, it probably makes you smarter.

And everyone has a bad day every now and then, Stephie. We're all allowed and just like you're always here for us, we'll be here for you.

If you took all of us and combined us into one, we'd be the most amazing person the world has ever seen. Because right in the center of our chest, would be you....the heart. You are the heart of this group, Stephie. You are what makes us keep going the way we do. And without you, this group wouldn't exist.

We love you, lass.

Cass, Hannah, Noel and Kia

Posted by xadorableonex on 2009-07-04 05:55:11 | Rating: