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Yes, I believe there's a great difference. "Having sex" is a physical act with physical reactions but "making love" is beyond the realm of physical contact. Sexual interaction is something wonderful to enjoy but "making love" is something to experience. No words can describe lovemaking and no one can capture or package it. That's the difference!
"Having sex" can be filmed, described, sold, packaged and even justified but making love is outside of everything. It transports you to another place. Sex is momentary but lovemaking touches the eternal.
Given a choice I believe most people crave lovemaking but settle for having sex. Perhaps not a popular opinion but I believe it to be true.
At one time, I wouldn't have known what i was talking about, but it's so true! Don't get me wrong, sex is amazing but sex with love is almost 100 times more so.
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Posted by xXIceIceBabyXx on 2007-10-24 16:07:49 | Rating: | Views: 1952
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Indeed, sex is something that is done for a kick to release desire, with no emotions [mostly] involved
love making? completely different, there is mutual feeling, love, respect and sensualness involved
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Posted by kentlass
on 2007-10-24 17:10:42
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i WOUld (love) to agree but I have yet to experience love making?>> infact i propose a trial of the word>>> in order to be making love you must be in love and i'm not sure if i belive in love. Well atleast in the fairytale meaning of the word...I happen to be a virgin in a sense but yet I have experienced fucking. maybe it should have been fucking vs Sex???
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Posted by Ken
on 2007-10-24 20:03:14
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fucking and sex are almost the same thing they have the same meaning and filmed and described, sold, packaged and even justified. But where love makind comes in u have to love that other person with all ur heart and it doesnt matter if u believe in fairy take love or not...love is there it just takes time to find it
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Posted by xXIceIceBabyXx
on 2007-10-24 20:08:38
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Time...
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Posted by Wayne
on 2007-10-25 06:49:58
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I thought that Victorian thought died out over a century ago. It appears that I was wrong. Some of us colonials have a more evolved view.
We share a common language that is confusing, whether it is used correctly or improperly. One word with its multiple definitions, usages and meanings compound the problem. Love and sex are perfect examples, their meanings are so ill defined that they have been used interchangeably and with a great deal of subjectivity.
Can you have love without sexual intercourse or sexual intercourse without love? Can you love a car, a book, or a play? Can't the sexual act be one that represents the ultimate mental, emotional, and physical commitment, but not be love or is it lovemaking? Haven't authors, playwrights, and the cinema provided us with an idea of what lovemaking is? I would respectfully suggest the answer is yes to all.
So, rather than trying to define or categorize it, enjoy. Because what you view as having sex maybe is lovemaking to your partner and could lead to what you desire.
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Posted by Rainman
on 2007-10-25 15:21:23
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Ice, would you mind if I offer a slightly different perspective? I'd like your say before splashing your wonderful post with my related thought(s).
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Posted by Refugee
on 2007-10-25 15:48:03
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no its fine everyone is welcome to post how they feel
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Posted by xXIceIceBabyXx
on 2007-10-25 16:22:21
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Firstly, sex is a sport. Having sex and making love are different techniques or styles within the same discipline. When having sex or “fucking”, objectives may be to overwhelm, outlast, and exhaust your partner. Or, one may be anticipating a partner overwhelming, outlasting, and/or sufficiently exhausting him/her.
As for “making love”, I differentiate the objective though performance would maintain the same measure of attentiveness as one would (sheerly to induce orgasmic and/or fatigue related confirmation). Rather than overwhelm, as with having sex, one might take care to maintain a rhythm and almost dance-like anticipation of how to best allow each other to shine. Rather than exhausting, greater emphasis could placed upon finesse and a mutual vibe...because...fucking is moreso oppositional while making love is teamwork.
Having sex may not be a strong suit and/or avoided if you're out of shape, anatomically depression worthy, or are too “civilized”. I state as such because, I believe many confuse a lack of stamina and/or premature collapse (among other hindrances) with having sex . Bad sex can doesn't always default to someone who thought they could “screw”, in other words. That person could have very well intended to make love, but couldn't hang. I guess anyone who writes is a writer so, anyone can technically “have sex”, but folks who know how to “fuck” can tell if that's someone who needs to get degrees and material possessions to compensate.
Making love has much less to do with authentic emotions and much more to do with expressing or channeling passion. It's just another performance, really. Further, making love is awesome if all involved are talented with regard to having sex and/or actually are “in love” with one another. Think about it. Would you prefer a stranger be the most gifted masseur/masseuse you've ever had? Or, the permanent fixture in your massage enjoying life (ie. your spouse)?
When one gets a massage, that person likely and/or biologically doesn't want to make a life with you, but may be able to put you on cloud 9. Some pride themselves on performing so well that one does achieve the sensation of tender care. That way, they cause one to return and/or tip well (ie. getting up and making breakfast among other awesome sideline benefits).
By the way, DO heed precaution and care of who you make love to because, YES, a lot of people will get confused and start professing love. :'( It's scary, but it happens. Some people can handle and prefer making love, void of a “relationship”, especially if all their general pool of candidates are not up for lovemaking.
Making love may not be a strong suit if you are very tired before commencing, have bad hygiene, or are too uncivilized/immature to let the loving making play out (rather than just start fucking him/her after a set interval of time)...lol...I know some dudes who do that and...bah!...you'd have to have been involved in our conversations. Anyways...
Lovemaking can be filmed and it is as beautiful to see as watching someone get “fucked” beyond their ability to maintain composure. It is a more refined art of intercourse as opposed to an athletic feat. So, because most people can neither “fuck” or “make love” (with any measure of ability beyond being alive), lovemaking is a true rarity among the boisterous and mainstream adult film consumer demographic. It's like being able to tell that someone is a star on a basketball court versus witnessing phenomenal teamwork. On occasion, multiple stars are able to humble themselves and perform well as a team.
My perception is totally biased and based upon my own experiences so, I don't presume this too agreeable. Cheers and thanks for allowing me to articulate my thought.
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Posted by Refugee
on 2007-10-25 18:24:25
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anytime it was actually very interesting :D
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Posted by xXIceIceBabyXx
on 2007-10-25 18:33:57
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As refugee said, it's kind of like a dance, perfected between two souls. In my opinion, sex is what I did with the guy I got from the bar that halloween many years ago..lol while it was fabulous and he did things to me no other had...I didn't make love to him at all. Making love is taking both of your souls to a totally different level, almost an out of body experience if it's truly making love. It happens not only with the physical parts, but the mental ones also, you literally become one in your heart and soul.
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Posted by nikilynn1113
on 2007-10-26 07:32:38
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