You know, I started today off feeling pretty good. I had a few errands to run, but no time frame to do them since the kids were off from school. I took my time checking my mail, drank a few cups of tea, played some on line poker, worked out and showered. Then my husband called. The conversation started off nice enough. We talked about the weather, how long the kids let me sleep in this morning, and then it started......

A few months ago we lent my sister some money. It was money that was just sitting in the bank. And it was going to help her get out of a rut that had been dragging her down for months. I was glad to help. After #3 was born and I was feeling like I couldn't even breathe, she was there. She helped with everything. I was in a position to pay her back for her helping me. It was just a loan though and she promised to have the money back to us as soon as her tax return came in- around early March. Well, her tax return was 1/6 of what she thought it was going to be and she called me on Friday to tell me that she was in trouble again. Her boyfriend's (and the father of her 3 boys) car had been repossed and they were being evicted and had to move to a smaller place. She did not ask me for money again. All she asked for was more time to pay us back.

I had known this for days but was waiting for the right time to bring it up. Well, this morning he asked about it. I told him that  the refund was not what they thought it was going to be and that they were moving to a smaller place and that the car had been....... before I could finish he started on about how they were irresponsible people and how he had a bad feeling about it from the beginning and now when are we going to get our money back and how sad it was......

Who was this man I was talking to?  Who was this person that could only see the money in this situation? The man who thought the saddest thing about the whole thing was that we weren't going to get paid back? What about the kids that were leaving a home they had been in for 6 years, or the kids who were going to have to go to a new school, or how badly my sister felt about having to ask in the first place but then to have to break her promise and not be able to pay it back when she said she would. And then when I tell him how badly she feels he tells me that that means nothing to him. WHO IS THIS PERSON?

It's not like we haven't ever gotten into financial trouble.It's not like we didn't have to live with his parents for 7 months (which was a whole other nightmare to tell you about) so we could pay off our credit card debt. The only difference is that we had his parents to go to who have a never ending supply of money (not time though) to help out their children if they need it. Why does he think he is so much better than my sister? And if he thinks he is better than her.....does he think he is better than me too?