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| May09---(o-2, S-1) |
first week of May is under way..Not much happening, The wife and son are continously argueing over anything and everything. I really can't tell him no,because some of his arguements are legit. She has no patience and flies off the handle most of the time...She has already said 3 times in the first week of May that she can't handle him anymore...What am I supposed to do???? We already had one blowout because I told her she needed to relax and get a grip. We talked this week already about how she needs to calm down.. She always says things like no time to do this or no time to do that...I finally got tired of hearing it and told her their is plenty of time, you choose to not want to take the time to do it.. I told her that she is the only one who thinks that there is no time. and that she thinks because she is doing something that makes her a better person. meanwhile, I'm the one spending time with the kids, brushing teeth,putting them to bed and negotiating all the arguing going on.. She has started drinking now before I even get home from work.. She works one day a week ( and she always says, it was the worst day ever).. She needs to rest before, then after work it's straight to the couch, then the whole next day is spent with everyone hearing how tired she is because she worked the day before..
-May8th- I'm on night shift tonight and we spent the day together- Kind of-.. To say that we were in the same house.. She complained about being so tired all day and still sleepy I told her to just go back to bed... She said I can't it's to late and she had so much to do today..Well she spent the next 3 hrs on the couch watching tv..I sat there watching her shows in a separate chair not saying a word. I got up twice to check email and take the dog out and I got attitude for leaving the room.. and now with 1 hr togo before the kids get home, She has decided that she needs to go out and buy something that, I guess can't wait.. She has also started with how much work she is going to have to do on mother's day because time is running out with someone coming to the house 6 days from now for refinance...I'm so tired of it...But, whenever I say something to someone about all this I get....."I know, it's part of being married"..Or the best one I've heard was Maybe you should go out and try a little harder,she'll see and come around..I've said it before, how much is enough????..
May 9th-10th--- I'm so glad that this work week is over..In my job evryone at one point makes a call that presents with a moral dilema, It's just a matter of fact, if it hasn't happened yet, then your time hasn't been called..with mine, it was a matter of what was best for a friend. I think I chose right, but, it meant for me to leave him alone in a time of need. It would have meant more mental dismay for him to have done the other...Even though it wasn't his fault, it still a memory he's going to have the rest of his life..A memory that I wish on no one...Worse than knowing it happened to a friend, was that he was doing my partner and I a favor.. I deal with my job very well because I don't take it personally..but, when it get s personal, then it hurts..we only made 3 more calls that night and all bs, I don't think we even transported anyone,just refusals.. I think I got about 50 min of sleep that night..
Of course I'm getting off work and now it's Mother's Day, I promised the kids to do brunch and buy mom her gifts on my way home from work this morning. Well I had to go home to get the check book and took the dog out,of course after giving him a big hug, he always knows when something is bothering me and will just sit there without moving until I'm done.I watched the morning news to see about what they were going to say about the incident the night before...It was a good story, I'm surprised they didn't trash us...I went out and got everything I needed and returned home, I got changed and layed on the couch and fell asleep,I thought the kids would be up before the wife,they usually are. I thought I would get up and make brunch with there help and it would be a brunch in bed. Well she woke up first and woke me up. I told her the kids wanted to make her brunch in bed and she said that she was up and we couldeat at the table. I said fine, but still tired from the night before. I asked her to wake me up in a hour so I could start and she said okay....Well she didn't and by the time I woke up it was almost 1pm. She has been FLIPPING out about a refinance were doing,the bank wants to come see the house,inside and out. She has already hired a gardner $400.00 to do the outside and we have to do the inside..This started about Thursday or Friday and shes said she was going to have to do this on Mother's day too. I told her to calm down,that she is making to much of this...But...She always does..So instaed of waking me up she cleaned..When she finally woke me up, she was giving the kids their lunch. After they ate,the kids had planned a surprise SPA treatment for her at the house, they were going to do it...Can you believe she almost denied them that??!!! I told her they planned it for a while and she needed to do it.. At first she wasn't happy about it,but, I think after they started she came around.. Then she had a desperate need to go shopping,because if she doesn't do it,then it won't get done...I could see where this day was going to go after that...When we got home the kids went out to play with a friend and she started to complain about the garage being filthy and needed to be cleaned up...So the kids and I started to clean,They did what I asked and then went to play again. She wanted Ka-bobs for dinner,which is fine, I grill hem,no big deal,but, I have never made them before and she tells everyone that she makes the best one's.so she said that she would make them..I finished what I was doing and walked back into the house only to hear..."No it's okay, I didn't need any Help" and at that point it was over,the only thing to do when she gets like this is to let it play out..At least hope it plays out. It lasted the rest of the night.. Of course everything I did that night was wrong or intentionally trying to "piss her off".. I heard cuss words,belittling,things like how she has been on her feet for 2 hrs and she was tired, even though she wanted to do everything in the first place..I grilled everything and as I was cutting the kids plate, she made hers and was halfway done as put the kids plate on the table. She finished and got up from the table and went to go smoke while the kids and I finished ours plus 2nds and thirds..She came in and went right to the couch.. At one point in between garage and cooking I went online to facebook to see if my friend emailed me back..of course that led to me living on facebook and thats all I do..Even though I hadn't been on F/B in 4 months while she has been awake..I only get on it when she's sleeping just to avoid this conversation.. Well needeless to say, she has gone to bed and hasn't said much to me..Tomorrow should be fun, the kids have Field at school and were both going....
11th-24th..Not much happened...Just a bunch of Arguments..Her and our son constantly argue. He is just like her when it comes to argueing, always has to get the last word in and is never wrong..I am sooo trying to break him of that habit..She can't stand it, I literally have to get inbetween them and pull him away because if I don't I don't know what she'll do...She starts telling me to get him out of there and when I do, she starts with I can't deal with him...he's out of control.....WELL GUESS WHAT!! I just feel like telling her "HE'S YOU!!!!!" The last fight was because he got a low mark on a quiz 2 days before school ended.. She kept saying that he needed to go to summer school and he said he wasn't.. The Boy is pulling in straight A's and 2 B's...
Well 2 days before Memorial day and she is already starting to bug me about getting home on time from work so she doesn't have to be late for work.. Once again, she getting annoying, on any regular day of work when I'm home she doesn't leave until a few minutes after 6am, even then she goes straight to Mcdonalds for a soda and sausage biscuit...But, when she schedules a work day the morning after a night shift...I better be home by 6am or ..as she says--She "may get put on probation"...She has been placed on it multiple times for different reasons.. It just kills me that I have to call in favors and bust my butt to get home so she can go to a job that she HATES and has pretty much had it...
Well my relief came in early (on time 0530) and I was out of there..Crappy night, not busy but spread apart..So I got no sleep and I have the kids today...They were great for me this morning. They let me sleep late and even though I wasn't happy about it and we talked about it, they made popcorn for breakfast...We hada blast on Memorial day just me and them.We started to joke about what mom would say when she got home and we were right..."It was the worst day ever on the floor today"...She has said it so many times the kids know it by heart...
*************** 5/27/09 WOOHOO ..I got lucky!!***************************************
I think this ties me for all of last year with actual times..Last year I said it was 4 times, 2 actual and 2 gimmes..Where the offer was there at one point before something happened...
Of course now that she did it, I'm expected to be grateful for the next week... As she starts to make her comments.....This is why I said No to her those 2 times...Because of what I have to deal with afterwards......
Well maybe more before the months out...only 4 more days left...Lets see what will happen next??
Nothing happened...lol..That's it for May...let's see what June has instored for me....
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Posted by woeisme on 2009-06-02 07:51:17 | Rating: | Views: 8
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