This week Christie Brinkley won the right to keep her divorce public.  A few weeks ago Denise Richards won the right to have her kids in her reality show and then went on TV and radio on a victory tour that became a nonstop tour on her ugly divorce.
Be careful what you win.

Divorce is ugly.
There are some that are pie throwing, some that are rock throwing and some that are mud throwing.  But very few people get out of the process unhurt. 

But maybe people need to try to keep the kids from even a scratch.  Do I really need to know what Charlie Sheen said in a voicemail, or that Christie Brinkley's husband was fooling around with a girl that was VERY age inappropriate and was hiding money for her under rocks all over the Hamptons?  Do I really need to hear that maybe Denise Richards wanted to have another baby using Charlie Sheen's seed?And more to the point do their kids?

I remember when I went to see a divorce lawyer a few months back he told me that given the laws in our state, which have since changed, he needed to "admit" to some things that he did, but did not really do to the degree he said he did so that they could get divorced.  As I said we now have changed that law and you can just say it is not working.  He was very worried his son seeing the court papers in the future and thinking dad really did this all.  He told me he sat up nights wording things just right as to not make it seem too horrible.  I respected him for that.  When I make the leap I will use him, alot of it because of that conversation.

As I said, divorce is not easy, and I know it will be hard.  I also know few will care about the juicy details of mine.  I also know that people who have been really hurt, as it seems Christie Brinkley has been, by a bad marriage all want revenge, they want to show the world how bad the partner was, scorched earth......but kids will know too, and that is dad no matter how bad he is.  And yes men do it to wives too.

Maybe you should want a private affiar Christie and Denise, I bet your weddings were.