Posted by
chebtastic1
on 2008-03-02 11:31:34 |
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I think love is kinda encouraging someone to be the best they can be (potential in them that maybe you can see and they can't) but not forcing it upon them. You can't really force someone to do something differently, even if you think it will be better for them and you, all that will happen is they get upset and you get frustrated.
I don't think its a question of change. I think when you feel like you want to change someone, its not total love. For me total love is loving someone as they are and because of, or in spite of, their imperfections. If two people are perfect for each other...there should be no feeling of them needing to change.
I don't know if that makes any sense!
Just my take on it xxx |
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Posted by
zypvashna
on 2008-03-03 03:53:47 |
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| love is too many things its what you said and so much more but mainly alot of love for me is putting up with the bullcrap and believing in the other person to a reasonable degree but i'm relatively young and still have much to learn. |
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Posted by
Deana
on 2008-03-03 03:59:38 |
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A quote describes love as "a friendship that has caught fire".
Love, in an intimate relationship, has some common elements:
· "There are feelings of warmth and affection, a strong emotional attachment for another person. A feeling that the other person is important and that you care for and about them.
There is some commitment to the other person. This means that we reach out to the other person and that giving to the other is a pleasure, not a duty. Being committed means that we know that conflict, disagreement and arguments will not result in the relationship breaking up but that we will still love and accept each other.
Love requires some action and hard work. It means that we have to share our feelings and show our caring for the other person. We all show love in different ways, by actions and behaviours, by giving presents, or washing the dishes; by words - by listening and telling, or by touch - kissing, hugging or making love.
Love means we have to take risks and be courageous. There is always a danger of being rejected when we move close to another person or when we share our inner feelings and expose ourselves. We need to encourage the other to share as well and also to accept we can never know everything about them.
Love means that we have to accept the person for what they are - there are some things about them that will never change.
Love means that we are prepared to look at ourselves and our behaviour and to change what we can, if it is hurting the other.
Love means we can accept the other person's differences, respect their ideas, feelings and attitudes.
LOVE IS NOT
total agreement
total admiration and approval
instant understanding
letting someone use you
using someone for your own benefit.
It does not mean someone will rescue us from all our difficulties. Love does not mean that we can hold the other person responsible for our total happiness.
The strong physical attraction, the passion and intense feelings we have in new relationships may develop into something less passionate but just as exciting. As we get to know and understand the other person, we develop confidence, trust and total tolerance for their imperfections. We can remain loyal to them through good and bad times, we can live in the present, plan for the future and let go of the past. We can accept and respect our similarities and differences, we can let them be separate from us and not control or possess them.
Our ability to love and be loved depends very much on our sense of self-worth or self-esteem. We can only truly love someone if we love and respect ourselves. How well do you know yourself, your thoughts and feelings, your emotional needs, your attitudes and values, your behaviour. Can you accept who you are, change the things you dislike and accept the things you can't change. Are you secure enough to be open and honest and to express the love you have inside you ? Learn to love both yourself and the other for, with love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack; without it nothing else will be enough.
Hope the above helps you and others in understanding- it sure helped me alot!!! Hugz Deana
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Posted by
lastblastkl
on 2008-03-03 08:55:47 |
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| i think love is accepting all that there is about someone and not trying to change them. so many of us go into relationships thinking "i can change them" and we shouldn't. we all have to change within our own time and our own limits and hopefully it's for the good and not the bad. i want to change constantly for the good and the betterment of myself. i want to own my full potential, mine and if i can achieve that then i will love the person that i need to and thats ME. anything after that will be just more blooms on my personal flowers and anyone coming into my life will get the scent of my roses. |
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Posted by
Mamacita925
on 2008-03-03 11:00:42 |
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| Love is Loving someone no matter what and knowing the potential they have within. Love is knowing that while they may not love you as much as you think they should, they love you with all they have... |
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Posted by
EasyToSay
on 2008-03-03 14:43:26 |
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Love is attraction, Love is admiration, Love is staring at your partner in awe at how they make you feel just by being themselves.
Love is Mutual support, Love is Mutual trust, love is knowing the unknown wont tear you apart.
Love is loyalty, Love is snuggling up infront of the TV when it's dark or rainy outside.
Love is found in devoted people. |
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Posted by
Nubian
on 2008-03-03 21:48:27 |
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| I miss this one...... I agree with every1 above me about what is love. I also think that you can love some1 from a distance. |
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Posted by
ColoradoDreamin
on 2008-03-04 00:05:28 |
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Love wants and desires another to be all they
were put on this earth to be.
Love gives another the freedom to live up to their potential
and fulfill their dreams.
But ... what is the best version of someone else
and what gives me the right to know that for another?
Many times we have a plan for someone we love...
take this class ... take this job .... join a gym ....etc. etc.
We can't wait to mold and shape them into the person
we desire or need them to be.
Not everyone is compatible.
Not everyone is with who they should be.
We cannot change another person.
We cannot give someone the desire to change and grow.
The only person we can change is ourselves.
Control (in any way) is not Love.
Love holds with an open hand.
If someone isn't right for us
we need to step away ... and let them go
instead of trying to make them into someone else.
Peace. |
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