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This weekend was a trial, and I wonder why I woke up this morning sick as a dog....
Friday was a day that I began working at 8 in the morning and I left my other job at 11 PM. 15 hours ! And yes I know that people do that and more every day and much of that is desk work, and I have my health so there are people worse off...I get all that.
So I come home dog tired to find NQRW is home already watching TV, feet up, watching some cooking show. Now I get we are married and it is her house too but this goes to my feeling that I work my tail off and do not get the credit for it. I pay every bill. I am now working a second job to get myself out of debt, the debt I made that I can't get ahead of because no matter how I try the household bills all eat up my check. Again I can hear you all yell welcome to 2008 America or where ever, but if this was me paying for just me I would get it. But this is me floating all the bills while she just pays her. I think, and again I could be wrong, that it might dawn on her that I am home, I am tired and I need to unwind watching what I want to watch.
NOPE
I went into the bedroom and watched there.
I wake up to her leaving for her long Saturday. Again I am going to admit that yes she is working two jobs, but my beef is the woman is not part of the partnership that should be marriage. A wife should be chipping in something! She give not a dime!
So I looked online and saw that all the early, as I had to go to work at 5:30, afternoon shows of the DARK KNIGHT were sold out. So I napped and watched TV. Did a few household errands but needed the relax time more.
I get to the supermarket and first customer I get is a WIC check.
This means the goverment is paying for her food and I have to go through her order one by one to make sure every piece is exactly what the goverment wants. If she is told she can have 16 oz of cheese and it has to be store brand, no buying Land o'Lakes cheese. And yes, I get that times are hard, I get that things happen and men run off and leave you with kids, so OK you need this help. BUT IF YOU ARE TAKING MY TAX DOLLARS ...LEARN MY LANGUAGE! This order was near impossible as she had 2 or three items that were not what she could get and I could not explain it to her as she had no idea what I was saying...
Now I get that Americans have a bad habit...we go to France or Germany or Japan and get mad that they do not speak English. I mean I think many of us think the world is one giant version of EPCOT at DisneyWorld and the people in the Italian section will naturally speak English...and if they do not, well all we do is talk louder and slower !
But I do not think it is much to ask is that you learn that language of the country you live in, and even more so if you plan on asking that place to feed you and your kids.
So after dealing with her thing went well for maybe 20 minutes.
That is when they asked me to go help stock. Normally I like this. You get the boxes, fill the shelf, mindless and it keeps you busy. But I had just finished stocking these 2 gallon ice tea jugs when some dope grabs two, drops them to the floor because he did not grip then right and I have an ice tea ocean on the floor!!!
So I get the mop and clean that up for the next 45 minutes between getting all the ice tea up and then mopping the floor clean and making sure it was dry....
The night stayed pretty much normal. Yes a few jerks here and there, the kid that wants smokes but does not have ID that looks 12 yet I should know he is 21, or the people that only decide when I tell them that they need to pay 21$ that it dawns on them go get the money out, or the guy that did not realize he could not use his mom's debit card w/o the PIN and looked at me because I should know it. We had the guy that looks like he wears the same undersized shirt that has not been washed everyday and always tells this one cashier his story of his HS girlfriend that dumped him and looks like her but since she was not there I got quizzed on if I think the recent scare about tomatoes is a goverment plot? I just answered I had no idea and scanned the order.....but then came HER
When she had a 2 cartload order at 10:30 I was OK
When it started with a WIC check, I was OK, thinking at least this lady speaks English
When she was on the cell phone cursing like a sailor, I was OK
When I saw her Tshirt that said to vote OBAMA "and piss off the white people" I was OK
But then it began....
First she starts in on the WIC order: I should trust her and not be looking at every item. I explained that is my job in a calm voice.
Then once that was done and I began to scan the other 200$ worth of food it started. Why was this or that not on sale? Why did this or that item not scan right? Why did it say 2.00$ in the flyer and it scanned for 2.50$? I explained could be the fact you needed a card for that price and pressed the button on the register that says she had one. She then launched into a tirade of how the white people are holding black people down, how I am being rude(I hardly said a word once I saw this woman was trouble) because she was a poor black woman, that I am some MFing whitie that thinks I am better than her (yes I am part of the Hamptons elite. We all work night jobs as part of the plan, did you not get that memo!)...and to top it off, I was the only open register so she did this with an ever building line watching!
So she goes finnaly and I clear the line she created and I head home. Not in the mood to dance any jigs.......
So I come home tired, beat, and ready to just go to bed....BUT WAIT THERE IS MORE!!!!!!
So I say something about being tired, that my day was tough, that this 2 job thing is hard...like anyone would and what do I get??
Not a hug
Not a "poor baby"
Not words of hang in there
No NQRW decides she knows that this is my way of making her feel bad about not chipping in on things. She knows I resent her, she knows I am mad, she knows I hate the fact I need to do this, so she is going !
Now I sort of let her go but not.....
See many of my female friends have said this is a game she is playing.
She has no intention of ever really going but knows that she can pull this string so she does.
So I said go, BUT that I thought that it was silly to go based on nothing I really said beyond I was tired. But that she should go if she wished and take the son too. Now let me point out this is at 11 PM, where is she going?!
Mom is asleep
Motels...well she is going to pay for what she can get for free?
So she stays
BUT WAIT...
While I am explaining how dumb it is to walk out because she feels guilty I am tired I place my hands on her shoulders. Lightly, like anyone who as MADDLY in love with someone would, not that I am but wanted to show it was not a hard hold. She reacted to that I guess out of fustration and said to stop touching her. The son pops out and asks if he should call the police??!!! For what? I have never hit my wife in my life.
I do not hit women, or men for that matter.
What bothers me is that while NQRW looked at him and said no that I was not hurting her. It was not something she stopped dead in her tracks and said was out of line. Only later when I was expressing how offended I was did she even acknowledge that maybe that was an out of line comment.
So she stays and we go to bed.
We wake up and we had planned a family day. I know what you are all thinking, why bother?
Well I guess I keep hoping....and the day was not bad...not good but not bad. Bland...no fun....nothing.....
There was another point during this weekend but this post has gone long enough ...and I want the point to stand alone so I will end this
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Posted by whiteknight on 2008-07-21 16:07:59 | Rating: | Views: 118
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wow. that's a lot. good for your family day... that's a good thing.
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Posted by thinkingurl
on 2008-07-21 22:58:01
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WHOA!!! I'm sorry you had such a bad day at ur job...Sounds terrible. *hug to you WK*...sorry its only a cyber one..:(
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Posted by dreampower
on 2008-07-22 09:31:49
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I totally agree with you about the WIC stuff - - that used to drive me crazy when I was a cashier!
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Posted by TheAlreadyJaded
on 2008-07-22 11:23:49
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This sounds like a customerssuck.com entry. Ha! and it is true..they do. I try really hard to be a good customer to make up for some of the bad ones.
I hope that helps a little, but I doubt it balances out much.
Sorry to hear you are struggling with the two job thingy. Definitely think that your wife should be paying half of the household bills. I think I would sit down and have a long talk about responsibility and partnership.
After all once you leave/she leaves, the bills will be split and she will have to do her part. Why not make it easier on you and share the load? Is this her attempt to keep you? Cause to me, that is just building up the resentment against her. If she cared about you at all, she would not have all the household bills on your shoulders, while she keeps her money. She would not want you working eleven hour days..or working two jobs. Hmm..I think you are more a convenience than the love of her life. Hope things improve soon for you.
peace :) shemelts
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Posted by shemelts
on 2008-07-25 08:44:40
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hi bro. do you want me to really tell you what i think? or do you want to be told that every thing will be ok?
WHEN, come on man, wake the f78k up.
you, my brother are being played. do you know what that means?if she gave a damn about the relationship. she would be kicken in. marriage is not 50-50. oh no no no it is 90-10, ON BOTH PARTIES
where is the money going? 2 jobs and no money, pays no bills. you pay it all?
ITS your wife. demand to know where the money is. you are married.you have the rite to know about the finances ,in the household. what i don't understand is your attitude that ya'll seem to be living two seperate lives. and that it is ok. and by that i mean that your are not saying anything. i could go on but i will catch you on another blog
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Posted by FRODO2
on 2008-07-25 15:56:36
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