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At a SuperBowl party last night I was talking to a family member that knows alot about all this stuff I am going thru, all except KP.
What bothered me is that this person is sure I am wrong and that even if I am miserable, I need to stay. This person feels that this is all just a selfish phase and I need to grow up. They also stated that I will be a lesser man in their eyes should i do this!
What bugs me is that alot of their feelings come from two places:
1) A moralistic high ground that they are always correct. They are the type of person that if they discover a movie, a show, a band, a type of clothing, anything....they will make it known that this and only this is the way to go.
I have even stopped telling them new things I find in life because all i get is told I am wrong and that what I found is not the best but this other thing is.
2) Even more disturbing is that alot of this is that opinion they have is about not seeing me as me, but as the me they knew years ago.
I may have quoted this earlier, but Dennis Miller once said that no matter what you do, you can be President, the Pope, solve world hunger, cure Aids, win the Super Bowl...to your brothers you are still the guy they tricked into eating a worm.
This person personifies that!
They can not see that I am not the insecure person that was afraid of female rejection, that wonderd why I had no friends, that questioned my abilities( and from all that I married the first woman that would date me long term) I am a new guy that is past all that. But I am not that in their eyes. Play your role! Be the good guy! Live up or down to the person I see you as.
And just because I am this new person it is not a mid life crisis!!!
I am gettig sick of that term
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Posted by whiteknight on 2008-02-04 10:22:21 | Rating: | Views: 79
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