A good while back they made an attempt to bring back THE TWILIGHT ZONE
It was too uneven, some were right out of the old classic show, some were just bad...
But the first episode they did was maybe their best and yesterday I thought I was in it.
A guy wakes up and slowly over the course of the day he slowly finds out that words to not mean what they once did. People were still speaking "English" but not the way we do now.
What we call a dog is now called remote, a TV remote is now Helmet pie.
Try thinking of this globally.
By the end of the episode the man is sitting there reading one of his children's picture books so he can relearn what means what.
I felt like that man last night.
Did someone change the meaning of the word "grounded" and not tell me?
I came home last night early from my cashier job because they messed up the schedule and once again the right and left hand are not talking again.
I see my son is home, good decision.
So we start talking about what is expected of him now.
I laid out my plan of how he is paying the money back witn intrest and penalities for late payments(he gets all those in the acct so he makes out all the way around)curfews, chores, and no more of that friend that I think was a BIG part of this and I know discover was part of a warning shot he missed earlier in the week.
Now had my father done all this I think I would get the message. The man means buisness. lay low, let him cool, and figure out how I do this in terms of the money.
What I don't do is what my son did....
We have all been grounded.
Mine was less a grounding and more a restriction from TV as I was a home body, but same impact.
We know what it means even if some parents ground slightly differently. Some it means school, work and NOTHING else. Some it includes things like after school activities.
For my son, I think he thinks it includes everything.
He asked if he could still see friends that lived near, walking distance. One I agreed to as maybe this kid might be a good influence. He is disabled and from all I see is living a life that is not about that. He could be a bitter young man and is an active good natured soul.
But then he asked if he could go down the beach with a girl, how about if the people picked him up, what if he wants to go to a party....??
Grounded, remember?
So he stormed off and said he would be in his room as that seems to be all he can do for the next month...as if that would give me the guilts...I said that maybe he is finally getting the point. Oh and before he gets too down, remember what I left out of the restrictions that is sitting on your desk. Keep up the attitude and that lil super highway will be closed too.
I keep thinking that he never seemed to get the concept of punishment.
When I exploded, when any of my brothers and sister were in trouble, when most people I know were...we sort of took the idea that take the punishment, you bunker in, you maybe even do more to gain brownie points(ie your parents send you to your room so you clean it...or my other idea was take a nap and then my parents would chaulk up my temper to being tired), and you hope it blows over and is made less w/o asking...or if you did you asked after you proved that you saw the light.
You did not ask straight off unless it was a biggie.
When I was in college I remember coming home to find out about a family we knew of that had a daughter that went to school with one of my siblings. They grounded her for a month. That month included when the prom was. As I ahve been told alot of lobbying was done but to no avail...the girl missed the prom.
That one I might have given her as it is a once in a lifetime, money had been spent and it impacted the boy she was to go with.
That you ask up front about, not can you go to the beach.
Maybe it is just how a boy becomes a man and this is the story he tells his son one day about how he messed up.
Maybe it is our fault, we missed all the signs. But the kid went from 0-light speed over night.
A hermit when I started blog is now this....
So while it may not be that hard to see how we got caught flat footed, we did.
And yes, it has occurred to me that the whole marriage thing has us not seeing what we should have...but I think this was not about that at all.
Maybe it is alot of things
But now on top of the whole NQRW thing I have this. I have this as she seems supportive but not proactive. She sees this as me steering and her saying she likes where we are going.
Grounded, from the American:YOU ARE BEING PUNISHED
Submit it for your approval.....an 18 year old learning the meaning of being an adult and lessons he should have learned at 10....in the GROWN UP ZONE
You know see why a month of no TV was my punishment...LOL
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