Thoughts.com Blogs - Is it really change?

I know, KP is back on here and online and I can talk more to her so I should be happy. I am more than happy, but I am also I think at a point w/ my wife where I am more convincing myself that I am leaving than deciding.....
So my question for today class, since you did so well on the love question yesterday is this....
*tounge being taken out of my cheek*
....As I have said here alot, my wife's big degense in the recent days is that I married her, not this "potential her" and I was wrong to do that.
Ok, but is she right?
Or, as maybe this small example shows, and yes I admit it is the best example I had and it is a lil weak....
I have told this story on here at least once so I will kepp it short for those that read me alot:
When we first met, the first two dates, we went afterwards to a park, it was dark but given where we were it was safe after dark. We sat on a park bench and kissed for at least an hour or so. It was great.
A mere 6 or 7 years later on our anniversary I had a fun idea on the spur of the moment, we went to dinner and had a nice time. On the way home on a whim I drove to where tjis park was. While still as safe, the years had made some of the area a little more developed. Mainly a housing development was at one end of the park, so maybe you got a slight bit more foot traffic but not alot.
I get "Why are we here?" with a look of concern
I sort off smile and say that Ihad this great romantic idea to sort of do what we did years ago.....NOT RE-LIVE, because I can hear that as a slight mur-mur out there.....just remember and kiss where we fell in love.
She rejects it saying we will get caught

Now listen, if this was a place we went as teens and now we are in out 30's and she saw this as some sort of trying to be kids again(and frankly where is that harm) I might get her point....
if it was an ABOUT SCHMIDT moment where they turned our park into a parking lot or it was part of the development now, then I get it....
If it was now a dangerous area, my friend at work lived and grew up in a part of Newark NJ in the late 50's that now I will not drive thru it is so bad...I get that
But it was all about fear and not wanting to be as romantic

Yes, again, I can hear my side of the gender isle yelling that women trap men and she got the "disease" many do that they eat wedding cake and get a bad reaction that makes them hate sex(a joke).
That is not it and frankly while I know it happens it is not fair to women as it is more a small minority than all or most...it is some at best...

So, while again I know this is a small example, it is one ....
Did I really marry one woman and get another....?
did I marry a woman and ask her to grow and change and that is not fair???(a question that we batted around alot on this blog in the past so my question there is less is it fair and more is that what happened)

Or what does this show if anything?