In the NY area we have been treated, if that is the word, to two divorces in the last week.  You all saw it but we had a front row seat.
A-Rod is getting divorce from his wife and Christie Brinkley is finishing up her 4th time round.  But in neither case are they really going to feel the pinch in terms of money? Most likely not....

Then I read the other day that many people are not getting divorced because of the bad economy.  People are staying in marriages long after the love is dead just because they can not afford to split and run two households.  Wow, I am a statistic.

I wonder though if maybe something needs to be done to fix this.

Yes, we have all sat and watched as the rich and famous, or just rich buy bigger cars and bigger homes and go on better vacations. 
There is a show on every Sunday on a local NY channel that shows us all the available NY apartments, if you have millions to spend.
I can give the wealthy their toys and not be at all feeling that they need to share the wealth. 
Luck, or a good idea, or hard work, or being born into the right family or whatever gave them that ability and I never count other's money. Or at least I try not to.

But this is different

I have come to discover that NJ is very backwards in this area.
I do not want to leave her penniless on the street but I also need to live.   I want her happy, but I want to be happy.  The sad thing is that the law is making this less possible.  Soon the caring I have will be gone because we seem to be just going down deeper.
I once loved this woman and despite her inability to grasp this I will always care what happens to her. I will cry when she dies and be sad if she is ill.  But if we keep as we are that will soon go too.

I still belive in love and all that it entails
But I am beginning to see myself as single. I am imagining I am not the man working the supermarket check out, but teh single guy in my line that is my age that is checking out.  I have started to look at where I live and seeing how it would be nice to move this here and that there once she goes.  My mind is seeing I can do alone. 
Despite my mother's groanings that I do not do alone well I know she sees me as I was not as I am.  And alone in 2008 is not what alone was in 1994 when I was last alone.

Some who know me know that I have more stopped NQRW as she tried to leave on a number of occasions.  Well I am no longer going to stop her I think.  I will let her go, I will face what happens next and leave it at that.

They say money does not buy happiness.
And they are right
But I ask what is good about a system that makes it possible for the rich to get happiness and freedom and the middle class to not?
I am all for not simply leaving a mother or stay at home wife out in the cold.  I am all for child support. I think that both of them are great things that are needed to keep society going, but when I am told that I am going to pay in alimony more than I pay in rent to a woman that has worked through the whole marriage how is that fair? And how does that serve society?