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Ok so now you know the story I have some overall thoughts and and can add a few details about things that really were about larger issues
My wife who hates the city, hates planning things, constantly thinks that she should or could have done something better pulled off a great day. I think if I do not add the last part it is flawless...well the whining might keep it from perfection but that was my son and you can not plan around an 18 yr old's moods.
I think if she stopped worrying all day that something would go wrong or that I would want something else she might of had an even better time.
I know I always want more or different
It drives KP nuts when she does stuff for me.
But she just tells me to stop and I stop.
I can be Veruca Salt from Willy Wonka and "want it all now" at times. Just call me on it and stop worrying.
But sadder is that she gained no confidence from this. She took the wheel, I let her for the most part, and she did not drive off the road. She should be confident. But because she asked for help to know how to do it all, that means she should not be confident. I need a map to get places I do not know how to et to and I ask directions, does that mean I did not get there?
Confidence breeds confidence, but you need to be able to see when you should have some.
The comment my son made, I am sure it is his fear of things. I am also sure it is that despite my and my wife's best effort that we can not get him to talk about all this and he has some friend that has divorced parents that the dad did that. If he just was more sincere about the apology I got for saying that and used this as a chance to really open up, I would forget the whole thing.
I am sure some will disagree but I really did try to live in the present that day. My possible future was the one ton gorilla but I ignored it like in those retirement ads. Yes I thought of them. I thought of bringing KP and her kids to a game next year, I thought of maybe her being here to see the tree in Rockefeller Ctr live this year...I did all that. but I did not let her be the 4th person on this day either.
Like I said before, this was a great day, just maybe she tried this hard too late. I am not sure.
But one other thing did sort of make me sigh
We are walking, in cabs, moving about the city and I point out this or that. there is Moma(Museum of Modern Art), Grand Central Station, the lobby of Grand Central and it's really intresting ceiling, the NY Public Library, The Chrysler Building, the Empire State Building, The Metropolitan Musuem.....and I get silence from one and who cares from the other unless I point out, like i did at the bridge that is part of Grand Central Station, that it is in a video game(The Godfather)then who cares becomes "cool". This great city, all this stuff. more than anyone can see in a month and I get indifference and quiet.
Now my wife will tell you that it was a "Dad day" and this was "Dad stuff". Make it an us day, a family day, learn what I like after 12 +years and maybe enjoy it.
KP could name cities in NJ and I am trying to get better on my Aussie history and geography and culture. Like I never knew the place was as young as it is!
I thought they were there maybe shortly after the British gave up on us ever coming back and joining the empire again in the early 1800's.
And even if you never met me, and even if I was not your dad, this great big world capital is an hour away!!! It is more than a place they broadacast the TV you watch from, it more than where the Yankees play...it is art and culture and life and beauty.
If it was my son I could just say youth is wasted on the young, but in this case it is more NY is wasted on the bored.
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Posted by whiteknight on 2008-04-07 12:19:33 | Rating: | Views: 82
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okay, I'm packing my bags ... NY here I come!! LOL
You did all that in a day? So much packed in...
I was expecting you to say "and then I turned 47!" HAHA - fantastic....
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-04-07 16:38:48
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Easy I am sure I or someone will show you NYC one day. Maybe find a man from the US and we can all double date. Two Aussies and two love struck men
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2008-04-07 17:12:52
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Not everyone wants the same things, comprende? Yes, it is THE great american city, and good for you, you want to be a part of it, New York, New York. Sinatra himself lived in Palm Springs. I wouldn't live there, too hot, dull drive, NO culture. I love the Arizona and New Mexico deserts though. The landscape, the missions,the food, the arts. My Daughter lives at the beach, In San Diego. She is the envy of her friends. Your Son is trying to be his own man, it is only natural. Maybe he will find his own great city. Or great beach, or a different museum, or learn to order sashimi in Japan.
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Posted by circe
on 2008-04-08 01:11:29
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New York, New York!!!!! I have had the privilage to visit the great city. The food and the fashion was wonderful. I was alot like your son in my younger years when the grandparents would take me places to learn about our family history. Then in an instant everything that they were trying to teach me became real and it was very unbelieveable for me.
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Posted by Nubian
on 2008-04-08 11:36:11
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