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They always say 2 heads are better than one....
so here goes:
My wife has a job that she has had for about 6 or 7 months
before that she was working at the same job for 20 years before they let her go one day
She loves her new job and for all I knock her on the confidence level, it was giving her a lil extra.
Then she got a performance review and she began to question her every step so as to avoid doing any of the negative they had pointed out in the review
She lost her confidence, it showed so they are retraining her and have said that while they are sure she will get it back, if she comes back and screws up again, she is gone
Then they waved another position in front of her face, a position I see as dead end, a positon that may soon be shipped oversees. At first she said no but now they are really pushing this idea while still saying they are sure she will be fine.
I am against this new position as it is dead end, expendable, and moreover it seems the easy way out for her.
Why take on the challenge, see this as just a bump in the road and come back better than ever? Why do that when you can do the easy secure thing and have the false sense of security?
Now I am being told that should she go back and fail, because I say she should do that and not be the shrinking violet, that I will be responsible for her failure.
Am I wrong?
Should she take the "secure" easy job or go back and try again at the hard one w/ the cahnce that she could fail?
I need advice here
I will not get into the entire issue that if she had completed college she would be in this boat,
I will not get into that on the other hand I drooled when a famiy friend said she was getting her Masters at Columbia and I wished I could be her and even looked at the program and tuition costs,
and I will not get into that on a small level I see this all as some passive aggressive way to keep me here while poor defenseless wife does her low paying dead end job that I will see as unable to support her and will make me feel guilty should she be left alone
Please just tell me if I am wrong or right and give any advice you can
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Posted by whiteknight on 2008-02-08 18:12:21 | Rating: n/a | Views: 87
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