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Ok I need opinions:
This weekend I was in a conversation with someone that told me that they do not know how to flirt and that flirting..AND BY THAT I MEAN HARMLESS FLIRTING WITH PEOPLE THAT IT IS OBVIOUS YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ANYTHING WITH...is actually not healthy and good for you.
This same person then told me it was wrong to dream about other men. I am not talking about having awake "daydreams", I am talking the sleeping kind of dreams that you have no control over at all.
So is flirting good for you?
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Posted by whiteknight on 2008-04-28 08:11:03 | Rating: | Views: 258
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If no one gets hurt and one "flirtee" is not taking advantage of the other, why the hell not? It sure is fun.
And, how can dreams be "wrong"??? As you wrote, we have no control over the content of dreams we have when sleeping. Personally, I don't think day dreams are wrong either unless one gets so carried away with day dreams that he/she leaves reality behind.
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-04-28 10:16:15
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I agree with Meredith...as long as both parties know that is harmless fun then there should be anything wrong. Having a dream about another person other than your spouse should not be written off. It could men a number of issues that your mind is trying to get you to see.
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Posted by Nubian
on 2008-04-28 14:37:52
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I think flirting without hurting anyone is ok. Sometimes it can go too far, specially if you are with your partner but most times, it's great. I agree with Meredith on the dreams.
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Posted by prelude2it
on 2008-04-28 22:59:48
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I have to vote for flirting. Although I am in a committed relationship, I often flirt with people. My husband and I agree that flirting is an okay option as long as some lines do not get crossed. Flirting is a normal physical reponse for healthy people. It does not harm your relationship, and could actually enhance it. I look at my husband's flirting with someone as a compliment to him(that he is attractive enough to be flirted with). I am not a jealous person, so it does not bother me if women flirt with him. He thinks it is funny when men flirt with me. Afterall he is the one who goes home with me and sleeps with me at night. The old saying, you can look at the menu, get your appetite whereever you like, but come home to me for dinner, applies. Call me crazy, but it works for me..
Dreams are not controllable by either party. He dreams, though he does not remember them, and I dream too. I remember my dreams most of the time, and if I havea sexual dream about someone, it is not by my choice. How could anybody get mad about that? Crazy!!!
:) peace shemelts
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Posted by shemelts
on 2008-04-29 08:43:19
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I am a bit of a flirt at times, though I am not really aware I am doing it. Cheb knows what I'm like, and she's okay with it because she knows it means nothing at all, and she is the only woman for me. I think theres nothing wrong with it. And we cant control our dreams, so theres no point getting mad about them x
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Posted by geordiedreamer
on 2008-04-29 16:49:26
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Ok I need to have a neice quick
I need to make sure Stanley is not wasted on another girl...he will be one well rounded and mentally healthy kid!
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2008-04-29 16:55:37
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Flirting is healthy, but like the others said, it shouldn't cross "the line" and must be okay with both parties. I do not agree that women who flirt are and should be viewed as promiscuous and men who flirt are womanizers. As for dreaming, who thought up that shite?! Lol!
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Posted by Ellie2008
on 2008-04-29 18:02:05
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I'm on the fence about flirting in a relationship.. I mean I know it is normal and everything but sometimes I think that when people flirt that is sending the signal that this could possibly go further and that they are emotionally available. sigh I dunno... I don't like to think about my bf flirting with other people, but I'm kinda one of those jealous types... :)
-jaded
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Posted by TheAlreadyJaded
on 2008-04-29 18:32:19
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flirting???? let me see.....i don't think harmless flirting is wrong....sometimes one party takes it more seriously than the other and then it may become a problem but normal flirting is good for the ego and makes us feel good....i know i do it sometimes and don't realize i am doing it....it just comes off that way....smile...wink....see???? K
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Posted by lastblastkl
on 2008-04-29 20:34:10
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No, flirting is not okay. Put it to you this way, you know if you are in love with someone or not; if you have the desire to flirt with anyone but your one then you arent in love; flirting hurts because it's misleading and you never know who thinks what and when
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Posted by xxuglyducklingxx
on 2008-04-30 19:37:02
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