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I know that many on here might doubt if I really still care about my wife. but I do. While money is an issue in terms of walking away from all this I also do not want to leave a wreck after I go. As I think I said before I almost view my marriage as the Iraq War, I decided to walk into this mess and I can't just pull troops out now w/o an exit plan that does not leave things worse than when I showed up.
In light of this I have begun steps to walk away, it may take time, but I am going to do it.
Step 1#, I am finding, is making sure that she is emotionally stable before I go. So maybe many will say that my observation/complaint here is sort of strange given that plan but I also think that she should see that her life needs an overhaul and she should be seeing someone.
But if I wait for her to go and get the name of a doctor, call, make an appointment, and get the insurance referal I will be looking at my Silver Anniversary cake before she does anything.
So daddy/husband needs to do all the calling
Husband/daddy needs to find out who is in our insurance network, call, get a list, get a few recommends from that list from people in the know, call the doctor, etc
And more than one of the doctors I called commented that given that she is totally able to call, why is she not calling? I feel like I am in that old movie Gaslight and I am trying to make the world think my wife is nuts or something....wait that might work,,,ok ok just joking....
And how much does she have invested in a process that she has yet to even do anything to move along?
If I am honest, I hope I get a good doctor for her, she makes improvement & decides she does not want me anymore.
At the very least I want her to see that she is worth it, she has value, she is not destroyed for no reason....I want a woman to emerge
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Posted by whiteknight on 2008-03-05 15:21:51 | Rating: n/a | Views: 103
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