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Someone asked me yesterday a very good question that I need to share here: The question was: Lets say that the shoe was on the other foot. Your wife is claiming she is unhappy,and wants you to change and all this but while she may want that she also is doing it as a way to make her exit more palatable to her and the outside world, how would you feel? Ok, well the simple answer that does not answer the question is that if she was that smart and that cunning I would not be unhappy w/ her. But to answer the question posed I would have to say it would hurt. But then again I started this process at a time when I thought that KP would be able to decide all this alot faster. I decided that it was unfair to her(the wife) to wait until KP was ready and just walk out w/o giving her a fair shot at keeping me. When this all first started back months and months ago I thought that I would say this to the wife, she would see that her life and fell into a rut , make massive changes and then I would be happy and stay OR by this time KP would be hereand I would be divorced and w/ her. Only problem was that life stepped in and KP got ill and so everything went on hold. Which in a way was a good thing for my wife in that it has given her more time to show me change. Now KP will tell you, as she has told me, that she sees change in my wife from things she has heard me say and things she has noticed. Problem is that I wonder what has really changed and has this all been a new coat of paint on a termite eaten home w/ a bad foundation or has it really been a deep change that will lead to more. I see it as lil more than a cosmetic change that will go away once I stop pushing hard. We have all met a woman or a man that we like or even think we love, we want them to like us so we play a part...we hang out w/ their friends, we wear certain clothes, we waych certain movies..all in a hope that they will see us as the person they want...problem is that is an act and most of us did that in High School and not in our 40's..and when we do that eventually we can not keep it up forever. I have a feeling my wife is doing just that, an act. .....So, you never really answered the question...how would it feel? Well it would stinmk. and I would feel horrible. But I also think that I would be strong enough to not just crawl into a ball and die....that is where I think she is heading but I will save that for another post
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Posted by whiteknight on 2007-12-05 05:42:34 | Rating: | Views: 97
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I remember long ago, when I was about 25/26, I knew Pascal and I (first serious relationships ) was comin' to an end, and we were at a stalemate. I did everythin' in my power to keep him. 'dressin', hairstyle, wearin' makeup, that I hate doin', etc.' But, that wasn't the real me...and it soon ended afterwards. But, back than I thought Pascal was my life, and future...Now I look back at it, and laugh...
Do what makes you happy, what if you made a test to your wife, to see if she is actin' and say that you and KP aren't meetin'...and see if your wife still acts the same.
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Posted by olp76
on 2007-12-05 06:11:52
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She has no idea KP exists really
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2007-12-05 08:02:52
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This is horrible what you're doing to your wife! Just leave her and do her a favor! I'm sure she doesn't deserve such a betrayl!
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Posted by roqui
on 2008-01-03 05:14:23
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