Thoughts.com Blogs - Ahh.....pronoun trouble !

( A gold star to anyone that gets the title's source)

OK so last nite was marriage therapy, but this is less about the therapy and more about pre & post the therapy.
To her credit my wife saw how nuts it was that she wanted the gifts gone, I make them not come, and she gets disappointed they are not coming. She explianed that she wanted to win the war(did not know it was going on) and so that was where she had decided to fight. The box would come, I would say I did not want it and send it back as a show of her being more important then the stuff. That is a great fantasy, and I would have sent them back, but because she said so, not in some galant gesture. But she saw that my contacting KP to make them not come was enough....not really but she would tell herself it was(her words)....and so she apologized.

NQRW went on to moan that she is fighting a fantasy in that I have made KP into the perfect woman and she can not beat perfection so she will always be 2nd.
a) KP is in the shadows and may not ever really come out
b) KP is not perfect and i know that.
c) Right now I am married to NQRW, stop worrying about this other woman and try to make me love you and she will go away for good

I tell her all that and it does little so now her and the therapist are both convinced I am not over KP, not at all....well maybe or not....but right now you have me and instead of saying lets make this work, you and me, I hear the name of KP over and over from NQRW.
Be angry
Be mad
Be sad
But do not complain that she is always a subject at home when you bring her up.

Finally there is this:
I think it is beneath my wife to name call in this. KP may be alot of things, but "it" or "that" is not one. Call her "she" or "that person" or "that woman" with venom on every letter if you want. But do not make her a thing. She is a person.
Or am I wrong?