Posted by
blairstreetgirl
on 2008-01-17 11:08:35 |
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| It depends on the age of the kids. If they are "older" but still dependent upon the care of the parents, you do what is best for the kids - with an explanation to them as to why you have made the decision you have (they are entitled to know, even if the spouse doesn't think they are). But if the kids are adults and living their own lives, you certainly consider their feelings but you do have a right to consider your own happiness, as well. |
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Posted by
whiteknight
on 2008-01-17 11:43:32 |
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| OK maybe I muddled the question w/ the examples....so let me try again...the thing that will bring you heartache and the thing that will bring the child happiness are not the same issue. I know I may have made it a lil foggy w/ the divorce example, but don't think that I mean divorce per say, it is more if you could be hurt deeply but it meant your child was happy would you do it? |
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Posted by
Rajah1116
on 2008-01-17 12:35:08 |
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| I would take the pain for my kids...no questions asked, if I had to suffer for them I would do it with a smile on my face just to see a smile on theirs... |
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Posted by
Whitters
on 2008-01-17 14:08:16 |
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| I would take the pain for my child - regardless of the situation. |
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Posted by
nikilynn1113
on 2008-01-17 19:22:46 |
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| I have and would take that pain for my children...I brought them into this world and I love them more than anything. My children's happieness will always come first over my own... |
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Posted by
Mamacita925
on 2008-01-18 09:14:50 |
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| hands down I would take the pain |
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Posted by
CrystalLily
on 2008-01-18 11:42:00 |
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I've heard that if you are happy, your children will be happy.. In my case, that wasn't so. I stayed with a man that I deeply loved, while my children hated him. I didn't know that, as they never told me. They wanted me to be happy. This past October, my husband left us for someone else, out of the blue one day. My older 2 children, didn't even lose a tear over his leaving. My youngest and I were devastated, and are still trying to overcome our loss.
If you can save your children any pain by leaving, find the strength to do it. I'm sure you love your children so much that you would give your life for them. Perhaps this is how you will do that, by leaving your happiness behind, and standing up for theirs. A door never closes without another opening. I'm sure you will find happiness again, and hopefully, this time it will be found for all of you. |
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Posted by
roe
on 2008-02-11 16:27:31 |
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| Id take the pain, without a second thought...it would be a good deal if their happiness is a sure thing |
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