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 LOVE RIOT

Difficultsoul just made a comment about confrontation being a good thing and some times it takes a LOVE RIOT to shake things up a bit and I am thinking about this, yes, if you are good at communicating with people and you love and or respect them you should be able to confront them and shake things up a bit.

My life right now has been doing alot of shaking and I have started god knows how many LOVE RIOTS in the past few months. But I needed to, things weren't working for me the way they were, and I had to shake it up a bit, I was feeling like things were getting stagnent. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired.

I am not one to complain about things over and over, when I start to complain that means I'm getting ready to shake things up and when I do it's awesome because it causes me to grow and move forward in my life, this is where I can figure the WHATS NEXT in my life.

I hate it when people complain about the same thing for years and years, I think to myself are you nuts, you were complaining about this same exact thing last year or even the year before that, sometimes it is many many years.

I know my husband is a little uncomfortable right now, we get along great, we are best friends, we are great business partners, we do everything together, we very seldom get into a fight. Well at least until recently. Like I said I have been shaking things up around here, we have had more uncomfortable discussions in the last few months then we have had in the 24 years we have been together. I am just not going to settle for this friendship any longer, dont get me wrong I love that we are best friends but I want him to get vulnerable with me, share his heart and soul with me. I have never seen that part of him and now I'm after it.

I have stated with clear intension that I want him to be my intimate partner for the rest of my life. I am not going to back off of what I want, I deserve to have the relationship of my dreams and now it will be up to him. If he wants to get uncomfortable and vulnerable we will  take this relationship to the end of eternity, together forever BUT if he cant go there, he is the one that will have to walk. I'm here for the long haul. I'm digging my heels in, even when it gets really uncomfortable, I know thats the LOVE RIOT Difficultsoul is talking about. I'm all good with it. I want to be married to my lover, my soul mate, my one and only hearts desire. I want passion, I want it all and I am just arrogant enough to go after exactly what I want and know I can get it. I always do. Remember I create it!

    Posted by trevorjohn on 2007-11-22 20:27:14 | Rating: | Views: 121
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you go get it
i wish you luck
you sound like someone who goes after what she wants
Posted by  bernadettesaint  on 2007-11-22 22:33:07 
  
Be careful what you wish for or you will surely get it. Are you sure you want to see your husband's most vulnerable side? That side of a man can sometimes be ugly.
Posted by  HungryHeart  on 2007-11-22 23:11:04 
  
yes - HH has a point - you say what you 'want' but what is his point of view? What if you get his 'vulnerable' side and don't like it or can't handle it? Why do you need to have get uncomfortable and vulnerable? seriously i am interested 'cause I have been there.
Posted by  2rivers  on 2007-11-23 17:07:23 
  
This so hit home with me.
I walked away from my husband over a year ago...because he would not be intimate with me.
Sex is not intimacy.
I too wanted him to be vulnerable with me...to tell me his dreams...to share his thoughts on life...to tell me his thoughts on God and existence.
He was so caught up in work...and he brought it home with him on a daily basis.
I was so lonely...I had been with him since I was 14 years old..and I still did not know who he really was.
I brought up many uncomfortable subjects to him...and acted a fool with shouting and crying.
He still was so closed up inside.
I finally got tired of being sick and tired...and I walked.
I came home a year later....but during that time..he sure opened up to me.
He wrote me love letters...dedicated songs to me...and even started a blog of his own to communicate with me... because I would not speak to him ... I was done with the fights and begging for his love and attention.
I AM IN NO WAY ENCOURAGING YOU TO LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND...LET ME MAKE THAT PERFECTLY CLEAR.
It was just my approach...because I am truly a difficult soul...and I could not stop myself from pushing the issue with him.
Vulnerability in a man is so sexy to me...it makes me melt.
For years I had an affair in my mind with the lead singer of the Goo Goo Dolls, because his lyrics were so vulnerable and filled with raw emotions.
I felt like I knew Johnny Rzeznik more than I knew my own husband...plus he looked like my husband.
Women need that intimacy....why do you think we turn to each other so often?
Most men refuse to show this side of themselves.
If only they knew how attractive it is.
I wish you luck in your Love Riot.
Peace.
Posted by  DifficultSoul  on 2007-11-24 00:47:30 
  
2 rivers, I want to answer you, thanks for asking.
My husband gets uncomfortable when I try to get him to open up his heart, thats what I mean. I want him to show me his heart, his insides. I want him to trust me with his heart.
Getting vulnerable is the best thing a person can do to give and recieve love.
I am an extremly passionate person and I want that from him!
He confuses sex with intimacy. I want him to know the difference.
Posted by  trevorjohn  on 2007-11-24 08:38:01 
  
Difficultsoul I should have known you went thru this.
I guess I am a bit of a difficult soul myself. I am pushing the issue with my husband. I have brought it up in the past and then backed down real quick when I saw his reaction, it makes him defensive, this time I told him I'm not backing down again. I'm taking a stand for what I want and what I need. I'm not gonna settle any longer.
I know he loves me enough to get it,and I told him what my clear intension was. I want him to be my intimate partner for all eternity, now it's up to him to decide. I'm not going anywhere, but I will not stop pushing the issue, he can either get it or he can go.
You are so right, all the women I know think it is the sexiest thing ever to see that side of a man. I dont think a women would ever stray from a man that showed that side of himself.
It is a challenge, but I'm up for it. I'm pushing everything in my life right now. I'm ready for the "what's next"
I'm excited!!!!!
Posted by  trevorjohn  on 2007-11-24 09:20:27 
  
trevorjohn-..
Most men cheat for sex.
Most women cheat for this emotional intimacy.
I agree...I do not think anyone would cheat if we all got sex and intimacy!
Keep rioting.
hehe
Posted by  DifficultSoul  on 2007-11-24 14:12:45 
  
HI TJ and DS - thanks for explaining what you meant - both made great points and I agree completely with you both - sex and intimacy are two completely different things and intimacy is much more profound and significant. Some men don't know the difference until they are hit with it as you both comment . Why do men hold back? -maybe because they are raised in a male culture (mainly by their mother)where you never show your weakness or weakest point as others will attack it. Also recall Mars and venus, he thinks he has to be tough and fearless and 'the protector', not realising that women are just as tough and indeed that you may be stronger than him. Some men can't handle that. My experience is that there are times when the traditional roles are okay, others when they are reversed and others when the balance is equal, the best times, of mutual love, respect, support, strength, tenderness and courage. Good luck, if it works it will give you the greatest bond of all, total oneness. If you get it never let anyone or anything break it.
Posted by  2rivers  on 2007-11-24 15:09:03 
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