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I am going to hang out with K on Sunday night with Kael. We both are going to sit down with her and talk, as friends. We don’t really want to have an intervention, but we are both so worried about her. She is a great friend to Kael and I have romantic feelings for her (which I am sure she returns).
I don’t want things to be uncomfortable between us. Kael and I are going to just ask questions as we all play pool, which is something that is familiar for all of us to do together. I think that is the best way to do things. It won’t feel like we are ganging up on her.
I called her last night after I looked up some signs of abuse; physical and mental. She sounded the same as always; tired and quiet. I didn’t bring up the issue. I just looked at the vocal signals that she was giving me. I don’t think that she has the best self-image. I used attribute it to just having to have work all the time, therefore she doesn’t have that much time to be with friends. But now I have other reasons to look at her self-image.
She didn’t show any serious signs, but then I only talked to her on the phone. I didn’t get to see her. I have never seen any signs of bruising and she never wears long sleeve clothing. But I don’t get to see her that often. I only get to see her once or twice a week, if that. I think that I would be able to see signs of a struggle. I hope…
I really have strong feelings for her. I don’t want anything to happen to her. I don’t think that could live with myself if I found out that she really was being beaten, and I did nothing. My friend needed me, and I was too worried about screwing up a romantic relationship to step in and help her. My only hope is that she will see me as someone who cares about her, and that’s why I said something.
I don’t know her boyfriend. I think that Kael has met him once or twice, maybe. I need to be able to see the whole picture. From what K has said her boyfriend sounds like a guy who just wanted her to put out. I know that type, I used to be that type. But I have changed for the better.
I want to think that my concern for K is proof that I am a better person than I used to be, but that’s just a pipe dream. The fact that I want to get to know girls before I hook up with them is the real proof.
My biggest fear in all of this is that she is putting these signs to me to get me to back off. That is a serious issue, if it is true. I want to think that she has been honest with me as I have been with her. I always have self doubt in relationships. But I have never experienced something that could be so serious, with anyone!
Any help for a worried guy?
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Posted by tradecraft on 2008-02-22 17:06:21 | Rating: | Views: 70
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So I'm not sure if you said this already but how long have you two been friends? I know you took K out on Valentine's Day but did you two have a good friendship before that or just kind of know one another?
Well overall I think that you are being a great friend but right now if she is going through all of this that's all she needs. You've looked up information to see the signs which just proves what a great guy you are but don't over do it. A lot of girls run away if they see too much effort too soon... yes they see it as sweet but a just friendship sweet...the friend zone... I know I'm rambling but I don't want you to get hurt either.
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Posted by 22rockstar
on 2008-02-23 14:39:28
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