"Recently I've come to realize that a loving partner is everything. I have a pretty good family. I'm very close to my sister and my niece. I have a lot of good friends, who are there to hang out or when I need them. I'm a forever person. My friends and family are forever relationships.
But how do you know forever when it happens? I'm big on commitment and following through, but I don't know how I'll know forever when I meet it. What is it that sets apart a long-term relationship from a forever relationship? I certainly don't know.
But I hope I find it" - tjp1975
First of all, lets address the assessment that you’re a forever person. What makes you a forever person? More than that, what constitutes a forever person? How could you measure if you, or anyone else for that matter, is a forever person? I only question this because most people would say that their family is forever. Most would even agree that their friends are forever. So to assess that you are a forever person, just kind of means you are indeed the sort of person that possesses the want to keep all of your intimate and personal relationships forever. The problem with this, may or may not hold true for you, but the serious problem with this is that you will never know forever when you see it. You will always question whether or not someone could be your forever. Why? Well maybe because you are too critical of your partners, or not critical enough. You have to know, beyond the shadow of a doubt, that the forever partner, husband or wife, is it. You have to know that your heart is incomplete without theirs. You have to hurt for that person. You have to hold their wants and needs before your own.
So my answer to you, what sets apart a long term relationship from a forever relationship? The answer is, you. You are the only person who can set apart a long term relationship from a forever relationship. Not to say that the other person will feel the same way, not to even to say that it is entirely up to you. But you have to know in your soul that this is the one. This is all I’ll ever need. I have been in some of the worst and some of the best relationships, both of which have failed miserably. It is so hard to look at someone you love and tell them you don’t want them, tell them you want out. But if you don’t, its all for nothing. You have to make clear that you would rather break their heart than lie to them or lie to yourself. I haven’t met the one. I may never meet the one. I have met men that could have certainly fit as my husband, even could have been the perfect forever partner, but they weren’t the one for me. And let me be one of many to tell you, that it had nothing to do with money, or careers, or age, or houses, it had to with how well we fit together. Some people, no matter how cute together, or how financially stable they are, or how ready they are to settle down, or any of the things that entail getting married, they are all irrelevant when you actually do get married. Because when you love someone, when you meet forever, all of the things that mattered, they don’t matter anymore. All of the things you spend your life pursuing, your life making, all of them suddenly become second in your mind, because that forever person, that ONE literally becomes one. And you don’t care that they don’t use coasters, or that they leave their dishes in the sink, or that they don't make the bed in the morning, all of the imperfections don’t matter. Because you love them. And when you choose to love someone unconditionally, you choose to love everything about that person. Even the things you hate.
