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this past week has been pretty eventful...which is unusual for me i guess. last week we drove to PA for Red's bridal shower. it was boring, but extremely beautiful. they make such a cute couple...it's crazy to think that 6 years ago we sat bitching about men (well i did anyways) and she was just my virginal dorm neighbor. now she's grown up with a house and fiancee. time really flies. we've only seen each other twice in 6 years, yet nothing has changed when we see each other. we still laugh like old times and complain like never before. haha. i may've made a mistake going to mercyhurst, but i made some of the greatest friends and had some great times there.

on our way home, we had a tagalong.  B came down with us to VA to get clean, start over again (and to avoid death by redneck---he owed way too many people way too much money to stick around). my casual cousins (i call them this bc they are only family when they need something) invited him down to work for them again. CC was going to give B a company van and cell phone this time around so he had reliable transportation. i wasn't happy about B living with us bc he is a liar, drug addict, and a thief, but i wanted to give him a chance. for 4 days/4 nights he stayed at my house and i was constantly on edge. his brother used to live with us but i never worried bc J wasn't a thief and he only exaggerated, not lied.   he told incredible stories, and as long as you could pick out the grain of truth, it was ok...(for ex. if he said he was beat up by 6 dudes, there were prob. 1 or 2, etc)

on the 4th day CC called B and told him that if he wanted to work for them, he had to move out of my house cuz "he didn't trust his van in my neighborhood".   the only other choice was to move into CC's parents house (technically they are my uncle and aunt....but i don't claim them either)  say what you want...but we live in almost identical neighborhoods.   i can only find 2 reasons that they might feel this way.....1- they are racists. i don't have a relationship with CC so i wouldn't know for certain, but that's they only difference between our neighborhoods. i live in a more diverse area, whereas, they live in a mostly white neighborhood. to me, it sounds ridiculous, but why else wouldn't they "trust the van in my neighborhood"? the only other reason i can think of is, they hold a grudge against me (for some unknown reason) and they don't want B living with me...but dont want to put it like that. i'm not sure why they both are over 30 and can't confront the situation head on....but hey, to each his own.

i also think they are making B move in with U&A bc of money. that branch of my family has a completely different demeanor than anyone else. they act like they didn't come from the same primitive means we all did. they live in a bigger house and drive nice cars.....but they are also in debt to their ears and constantly borrow money from people. this is the reason B moved out the first time he came to VA. they would hold his checks and only give him an allowance.   (i understand he is a drug addict, but he's 24, not using, and they ended up keeping over 2000 in 4 months and didn't give it back).

providing all three explanations...it seems they are not separate answers....all 3 could coicide and make it a win-win for them no matter what.   i'm fine with the fact they don't like me...hell i could care less. it saddens me that they think i'm in a shady area, cuz i've only ever had one incident in 7 years (they've had 2 in 5-- whose neighborhood is worse?) and it really upsets me that they would use B for his money. they can disguise it as trying to help all they want.....but everyone in my family knows their background.

i didn't want B to live with me in the first place, and i'm relieved that he isn't here (though i can't find my digital camera and it's upsetting me cuz i think he stole it) but i'm disappointed at the way things turned out. when he is here, i know he isn't using and i know he is relaxed and will stay down here for awhile. when he is with U&A, he is bored, angry, and ready to move home (back to a certain death). i'm praying that he will use this last opportunity to save money and get himself a place to live, free from their control. please pray for him.

other than that, i'm back on track since thursday...i've painted my computer room (just one more coat on the trim tonight and i'm done! yay!) , cleaned my house, and hit my quota at work already.   the rest is easy breezy.   J and i went out for a few drinks and to see RON WHITE last night....he was hysterical.

the only downside is i think that A is peeved at me.  she quit her job on monday and has been feeling pretty good about it. yesterday was 4/20 and we always spend it together....you know.... haha.... and it was supposed to be the last day she smoked since she has to get another job. well yesterday i was painting ALL day and we were supposed to get together around 3:30. i was right on schedule, then J surprised me with the tickets. i didn't call and tell her i wouldn't be over...and she only texted me at 6 with a simple message. i'm going to see her this morning, hopefully she isnt pissed. i'm sad i won't smoke with her again and i missed it yesterday.   it was the first 4/20 we didn't see each other in over 5 years.   sad face.