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I'm still a virgin, and I want to stay a virgin!

I'm 15, and i'm a curious. I think about sex, just like the rest of you. I don't want to close my eyes anymore when I see a sex scene on TV just like I did before... I know all those typical terms, and i'm not naive.

The only problem is, i'm the ONLY virgin left in our group. When my friends and guys talk about sex like it's a toy, I grimace and turn away. I've expressed my thoughts to them a long time ago. I already said that I value my virginity. I want to preserve it for my future husband.

They ask me how i'd know if he was good or bad at sex, to that I have no answer. I don't really care... Marraige is not only about sex, it's also about having a family and getting old and still in love with each other. They disagree and say it's all about sex. Sex.

Constantly, I get a guy who would ask me if I were a virgin. I'd reply scathingly every single time that I was, and they'd turn away and attack my other friends who would comply to their every other need. And soon after, they'd be together.

Is that how you get a boyfriend? With sex? You lure them into lusting after you? I don't think so. I believe in a good relationship. My mother, my role model, my bestfriend, told me that since I was a kid. She kept her virginity until her marriage day, and look at her and my dad now. They're happy, and certainly not splitting anytime soon.

Now, back to my friends, the fact is, since I am your typical good girl, they'd treat me like a child, and they'd drop their voices in whispers when they talk about sex, dirty jokes and all that crap. But really, I appreciate it, the only problem is, that when I turn my back away, they'd stab me behind my back and say that i'll always be a blushing virgin, because no guy would want to marry me if I don't have sex with him.

Is that how time is now?

My dreams of having a husband would be shattered by his disrespect for my belief?

I chucked my 'friends' a long time ago. The fact is, if they talk about me like that behind my back, they're totally out of their heads if I'd still want to be friends with them. I have new friends now, though they aren't all virgins, they respect me and treat me just like the rest.

I'm very happy now, but I still have my doubts for the future. I just wish some guy out there, my soulmate, or whoever he is, will love me for me and not for my body.

Do you believe me when I say this things?

thesupersomething

Posted by thesupersomething on 2009-03-28 02:26:15 | Rating:

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i totally agree.
everything seems to be about sex now.
it's just, disgusting that a girl would give her body up like that.
your virginity is a special thing, and once you lose it you can't have it back.
so, i agree with you.
save yourself until marrige.
have no regrets.
screw peer pressure, and about everyone else in the world.
sex is very important, and people don't think about that.
it is disgusting.
so, yes.
i agree with you.
-Olivia
P.S. I am 15 too. and I had the same exact problem as you.

Posted by ohsnapxolivia on 2009-03-28 02:42:18

like you i wanted to wait till marriage for sex but i didnt and now i wish i did even thought i was engaged i still wish i waited cause once he got what he wanted....sex... he left me dont make the same mistake i did stay strong you can do it

Posted by emisue180 on 2009-03-28 03:01:02

i should damn well think you are still a virgin at 15 years old friend, it would have been illegal if you were not still a virgin at your age, seriously though well done to you and it is great that you want to stay that way friend, i hope you save itt until your body has matured enough to do it anyway.
it is good to hear there are still some sensible children out there.
peace my young friend
regards fraglerock

Posted by fraglerock on 2009-03-28 05:11:29

I held onto my virginity foor a very long time. I had serious boyfriends but it wasn't right with any of them. You'll know when the right one comes along. And to be honest, the only way I avoided having sex was talking about sex. I talked about sex and got my feelings out, it helped alot. Abd when you hit 15, you get those ridiculous urges that are purely physicaly. Just masterbate. I know that sounds blunt, if you don't release that sexual energy it'll drive you crazy. And this way no one has to know about, word won't get around school that your a slt, and you get to keep your virginity while meeting your needs.

Posted by mira12 on 2009-03-28 20:12:25

I know what you mean im one of only 2 virgins my my click or whatever you wanna call it lol but my friends respect that and they make dirty jokes all they want it doesnt neccessarily bother me as long as no one else ic uncomfortable with it and as for the future there are plenty of guys out there who want girls to be virgins but its like a weird situation my best guy friend told me " Id love to have a wife or even a girlfriend who was a virgin, the thing is as a guy i like sex and ill never pressure who to do it but if she wants to im not going to say no. so its hard to get a girl whos a virgin when everyone is deflowering them."

Posted by livlaughlove16 on 2009-03-29 01:12:59

Thanks guys! I appreciate the fact that some people do agree with me.. I don't hear that everyday.

Posted by thesupersomething on 2009-03-29 03:31:46

I'm a guy and I have to say, we are pretty one-minded as we do think about sex a LOT (however, my friends and I are 20 so we're a bit more on the legal side ^_^). Guys around your age are pretty much only looking for sex...most of them are dumb and don't know what condoms are...I would say give it a few years, then start looking for respectable guys. Look for their personality, who they hang out with, and what's said and done while they're with their friends...that's their real character!

I'm a virgin too and I had found that special someone but she broke my heart after spending $1100 to come see me and I'm still recovering...I told her that whenever I hear her language (Japanese), I think of her and apparently that made her cry...

Or you can find someone who's willing to wait, as nelle has said...that won't happen in middle school...I have a cousin in 6th grade who has already lost her virginity...several times over... I'm pretty sure sex is more fun when your and your partner's body has reached full maturity anyway...but that's just me thinking out loud.

By the way, you lol'd at my blog that I wrote in Japanese...can you read it? o_o

Posted by Phantasm on 2009-03-30 17:55:05

Yeah, thanks for your tips. I really really don't want to lose my virginity now. Like I said, i'm leaving that for my future husband. :]

And... IDK. I think I just did. :P

Posted by thesupersomething on 2009-03-31 06:51:13

i admire you i really wish that i would have kept mine. i did more out of spite for my mom than really wanting to. i know how it feels to be the only one left and they treat you like for stupid. you will find a guy that respects you for your beliefs. don't woory about it now they're just little boys. when your ready you'll find a real man and it won't matter if he's bad at it because you'll learn and grow together which will bring you closer. and his family will like the fact that you waited which is a lil silly but mother-in-laws can be horrible. don't let first love get to you it can be very very powerful just be true to your self and don'y do something you'll regret.

Posted by lovingly_lonely on 2009-04-23 19:32:11