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It was asked over in the threads section if there was any acceptable reason which one could use to cheat.
I answered no there wasn't.
I have been on the receiving end of cheating a couple of times and I would rather have been told it wasn't working then have to put up with all the lies.
But I can understand why some do it.
No understanding, love, respect or attention at home are some of the most common reasons I hear about.
Another reason is revenge. He or she did it first so its payback time.
Sometimes its the thought of a "new " lover or checking out on what someone may have think they have missed out on.
While I can understand some of these reasons, none of them are good enough to warrant cheating.
I used to know a lady whose hubby treated her badly.
He was so mean to her he wouldn't show her any type of affection, not even a hug or a kiss.
She had needs so she set out to find someone to take care of those needs.
I once asked her why she just didn't leave her hubby.
Reasons were the kids, money, nowhere to go, no job skills to name a few.
She said she was trapped in a loveless marriage with no possible end in sight at that point.
So she meets her lover once or twice a month for a quite meal then off to the nearest hotel or motel for a couple of hours of raw passion.
She told me that she does not love her lover but he is just that, a good lover.
He makes her feel like a women.
So I guess as long as someone is not just out for the quick " bonk " it could be accepted.
I guess a better understanding of our mate BEFORE we enter into a relationship would perhaps help stop things before they got started or out of hand.
But that too is easier said then done.
until I blog at you again,
take care of yourselves,
and each other.....templar