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Affairs...good or bad.

As someone who has been cheated on more than once I used to be of the opinion that there was no good reason for someone to cheat on their mate.
I now have a different point of view.
I know people, good, honest caring people who are hurting. Hurting real bad.
These people have needs that are not being met for one reason or another.
Should we. as a society pass judgment on these persons for seeking something outside their marriages ?
Not withstanding, that we don't have any right to pass judgment on anyone for anything, what are these people really guilty of ?
Yes I know religions frown on it and some condemn it but lets take a look as to the "whys" first.
A lady has been married for a number of years. She raised the children and kept a good home. She has been supportive of her mate and made sacrifices for him. But she receives nothing in return. There in no passion coming from her husband to her., No warm kisses, firm hugs, no " I love you" whispered in her ear.
She meets someone who takes a interest in her as a person. Is she not untiled to some feel good moments for herself?
Perhaps in time the friendship moves to a loving relationship.
They both know its wrong, well at least in the eyes of all us who want to judge.
But she can't leave the marriage. She has a vested interest in it.
All she is asking for is some time. Some time for someone to treat her as someone special. Some one to hold close, whisper in her ear, make her feel like the women she should feel like.
Are we ( you ) going to condemn her ? Are you going to deny her right to have some happiness in here life ? Would your rather her to remain faithful in a loveless marriage and die a very slow death emotionally ?
Do you think you have the right to make that demand ?
I for one don't and I for one won't.
I ask you all when things like this become known to you, before the " rush to judgment " stop and look at the reason its happening.
Is she just being unfaithful for the sake of sex only or is there a real " hurting" person here who just needs someone to care about her ?
Just to be clear, I'm not endorsing relationships outside a marriage but there are times where the need is the "greater issue".
We are our brothers keeper, we all deserve happiness.
until I blog at you again,
take good care of yourselves,
and each other.....templar