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So, I've been pretty blunt and open about what I think is hot. The only thing I haven't been completely open about is the fact that I find women attractive. Some of you might be weirded out by that, and I'm completely fine with it, others might find it hot, and still others might just like me for being open.
There's a girl at school and I like her. I've complained about boys enough that maybe she might be what I need in my life. The problem is that I don't know if she's into "that way" or not. I mean, to approach a guy and get turned down is awkward, but you can still talk after that. If I asked her out and she was against any girl-girl relations I might never be able to talk to her again w/o it being completely awkward.
I'm thinking she may be into girls just because she isn't one for boys, she likes more stereotypical boy things and sometimes I think she might like me too.
How do you approach someone of your own gender and ask them if they're interested? I'm not out of the "closet" yet. I've only told my best girl friend, a lesbian friend (we aren't attracted to each other), two of my closest guy friends (guys are generally less weirded out than girls), and an ex-boyfriend. Don't worry about the ex spreading rumors, no one would believe him anyways.
There are a couple reasons why I haven't told anyone yet. Everyone at my school likes to say "that's so gay" and it means that it's dumb. I am certainly not dumb. I have a very high cumulative GPA for anyone curious. Also, I'm on a sport, and lockerooms make being "open" very tense. We played a game for our team where we say what we have never done, and those who have done it must clap. A girl said that she's never liked another girl, and no one clapped. That was the only thing I lied about.
My best girl-friend is also bisexual and has a steady girlfriend (I am so jealous of them). One of the guys I told is also bi. There are a lot of people that I know that are bi- it's weird that it isn't as accepted as it should be. I personally think that most people are bisexual and only suppress it because of society. I mean, think about it, you can recognize beautiful celebrities of any gender, so why not think that you can appreciate both genders?
This isn't to say that I like both genders equally and I think that most people do, but I think every person, at one point of their lives has liked someone of the same gender in a sexual manner. I personally like guys more by about a ratio of 5-1, but I have crushes for girls in the same manner that I have crushes on boys.
I'm kind of intimidated to make a lesbian fantasy, but contemplating it. Feedback here would be greatly appreciated. :) thanks!
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Posted by sushi910 on 2007-10-04 21:33:32 | Rating: | Views: 277
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i like girls too, but nobody knows i flirt alot with girls but i have the same problem you do.
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Posted by onegirlonemind
on 2007-10-05 10:56:15
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i like girls too, but nobody knows i flirt alot with girls but i have the same problem you do.
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Posted by onegirlonemind
on 2007-10-05 10:56:18
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Never be afraid to be yourself! It doesn't matter the orientation or gender you feel attraction for as long as you get out of the relationship what you need and the other is satisfied with their needs. No one has the right to judge if that is right or wrong. I am passionately and completely in love with my boyfriend and "unofficial finacé", however I find my body sexually aroused by the female... I don't think anything is weird and never worry about being judged for something you find important. Stand strong for your beliefs!!! <3 may the best come to you!
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Posted by juniorsweet
on 2007-10-05 13:41:33
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well go on ur way i like how ur not afraid of saing thing. personally the hole bi thing to me sems like over rated u kn i belive that ur either gay or strait i dont think is that hard well i mean theres allways going to be that ho that girl is soo hot (im a girl just so u know) butr i really dont think that makes u bi or gay WELL lesbian what ever. my point is that some people find that to be so rough like they think that just cus they fella girl and by that i mean a person of the saim sex is hot or atractive that makes them bi. it really dosnet by saing that a pearson of the saim sex is hot ur really only implying subconsusly that u envy that persons a looks really. we live in a place were well judging are selfs is baced on what we se in others. so pearsonaly i think that bi is just a big statement of confusion.
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Posted by whatonlyisee
on 2007-10-05 22:25:07
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I'm A guy and am attracted to both genders too. I'm actually in college and going through a lot of judgment issues. Just know that if you don't ask her you will never know. Sometimes you really just have to step out of the safe-house and take a risk. If she says no then you know their is someone out there that is SO much better then her for you. Good Luck!
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Posted by applecoblr5
on 2007-10-06 10:41:47
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Igo to an all girls school and i am interested in guys, and 1 girl.Strange i kno but i cant realyl change that. The only things tht sux is the way people look at BI. Everyone thinks that being BI means that you will cheat on the girl with a guy if you go out with her. It is very stupid and gets tot eh point where yuo are pissed off. My advice is to just ask her if she likes you. Dont worry about coming out of the closet at school. People will actually think it is cool. but you shouldnt worry about what people say. It just makes life harder. If she says yes then there is your opneing. IF she says no, then no worries. Other girls now know you are BI so things will be easier. hope i helped. I loved your post.
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Posted by x0fallsbestwriter0x
on 2007-10-07 10:42:11
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I feel that I could of wrote that 3 years ago!! When I was in school I had a crush on my freind at the time only my closest freinds knew that i was ga. So I told her and she was flatered but not interested. Everybody else found out but no one was bothered in fact some people thiught it was cool!! I am attracted to women but will kiss boys when im out! So i dont know what that means. I think that if your atracte to a man thats fine if your attracted to a women thats ok to! there is no neeed to stress about it. I have never actually been attracted to a man but if that happend then it happens thats fine. I think that people are tooquick to put labels on people. Good luck with everything im sure it will all work out!
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Posted by Amy19
on 2007-10-07 14:17:24
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well i know wat ur going through...i used to like girls way more than guys, and i dated this one girl once and things didnt work out, and to me then it didnt seem right, and then i dated this guy and he was so nicee and sweet i seemed like a way better feeling being with a man than a woman. but i think there is no reason y girls and guy cant like and/or date the same gender. i dont c anything wrong with that. so i encourage u to do something with your like and get out there and find the right man or WOMAN for u. good luck
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Posted by blueeyesx0x9
on 2007-10-07 15:39:23
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There is nothing wrong about feeling a different way to girls then boiz. My m8 E invited my m8 C round 1 day and C said she made a pass on her. E dont care if these rumours r spreadin she just says I am who I am.
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Posted by CJSWTESBP
on 2007-10-10 10:26:09
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I totally agree with you about the last part and the celebrities- and the truth is im in the same situation, except, i got the guts to tell the girl. You just need to go for it, i mean, thats what lifes for right? taking chances. Just learn to accept rejection, because afterwards, after time, you will be ok, there will be others :)
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Posted by MentallyxDeranged
on 2007-11-12 14:50:32
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