When we have a spirit of contention and pride come over us it is hard to say sorry or things that are kind or uplifting. at that point we need to pray for that good spirit to replace the bad to give us back that desire to do good. To become like a little child in the sence that the desire to do bad is gone and there is no pride, just full of love. For that kind of miracle to happen as we get older requires faith in Jesus Christ and in his works to do. This is the real miracle, the changing of our inner self by devine help after we have tryed all we can our selves. This proses has even greater benifits when we enter into a covenant relationship with our Father in Heaven.We can experiment with this and see the evidence deep with in us.