once a cheater always a cheater

Sounds to me like you guys did the right thing. If it isn't going to work then moving on was the right thing to do. Perhaps now that he has the things in his life he said he didn't want before means he's a different guy than he was when you were with him.

If you care, like you say you do...why are you not happy? He has changed and moved on, you need too also. He has become a new person and realized the joyful things in life about marriage and having a child. It may not of been with you, and that may hurt, but he did hurt you in the beginning; the fact you still care about him is wonderful. But now you need to care about yourself and figure out your own path. No one will tell you to forget the past, but I would not say to latch on to it either.

If you want to talk more, I write about relationships and have been helping couples for over a year now. my name is Jason Atkinson and my email is jasonianatkinson@gmail.com

Sorry, dont agree with Jason on this... He told her brother he had regrets when he heard she was pregnant, sounds to me like he's trying to keep his options open. Goes back to the first comment, once a cheater, always a cheater.

Do agree with him that you did the right thing going your separate ways. Don't waste one more moment of your life on him.

Thanks all for your comments. Really appreciate them all. I'm happy with my own life, my new fiancee and our son, but I guess I am just shocked that a bit of my cares about my ex.

I am going through the whole "i still care for an ex that treated me kinda like shit" thing too. And i see where you are coming from. You were with him for quite a long time, even it was on and off, and you cant help but to still have feelings but i think that having your son and now a fiancee with help with your shock of him doing the things that he told you he would never do. Maybe talk to your brother about how it makes you feel that he still talks to him and say it would be easier to cope if they no longer talk. I hope everything works out for the best!

Thanks hon :)