My sister arrived yesterday and today we unpacked her U-Haul into a storage unit. How thrilled am I ? About as thrilled as she is! Yeah, it's a love fest and we're right in the middle of it. It could be a pink cloud, but I don't care. I'm enjoying her and reveling in how much she looks like our mother.
I think I've told you all about the last time we saw eachother, which turned into a major catastrophe and I think we'll  both be on our best behaviour to make sure it doesn't ever happen again. We are sisters and of course we will piss eachother off from time to time. We will have our fights, tiffs and arguements. Most importantly, we will love eachother.
My sister and our mother didn't speak for over 20 years. They could not get along, no matter how hard either one tried. It was a shame. I think both longed for the relationship that would never be, and both were damaged by that.
Our mother died a year ago...since then I can see an enormous change in my sister. She is happier and more willing than ever to leave an abusive marriage and take me up on my offer for a place to crash. I can only come to the conclusion that mom is helping her from the other side. I feel, and so does my sister, that everything mom wasn't able to give her here on Earth, such as the terms of support she's giving her now.
 I find that to be an exeptional quality in them both. That my mom is so supportive to her and so willing to give her strength. Also, that my sister had the strength to lay down her burdens and accept the support that is given. I find it fascinating, and miraculous and so incredibly wonderful.
My only regret is that I had always wished they could get it together while my mom was alive. To have us in the same home together was forever my fondest wish.
I tried as much as I could. So did our Grandmother. Trying always to say nice things about Ma to sis, and always nice things about sis to Ma. I struggled with my sense of loyalty and family. A position I had never asked for yet was given anyway. That's just the way it was.
Now with freedom and umpunity we can share sisterly love and secrets and fights and tenderness.
I love this new adventure, and all that it brings.
Her big dog wouldn't let me down my own hallway though.....