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Public Service Announcement on 2007-11-30 13:13:17 |
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Good ideas! I'm a knitter...I should pick it up. People love my knitted socks.
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crazy sister-in-law on 2007-11-29 20:21:39 |
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Oh, I love these questions because I was stuck between my dh and my sil years ago..actually the whole damn family.
I once was able to get to my sil this way...she kept after me about quitting smoking. Snyde comments and evertyhing. I finally told her, looked her right in they eyes and said "You know.....quitting smoking is a lot like trying to lose 50lbs...it ain't easy, and you really have to want to do it. You really have to be ready for it." I have never heard another word from her or the rest of the family again about smoking. As the years have come and gone...they have seen what a fabulous caregiver I am. They have also come to see that I'm a person just like them...especially the more I stuck up for myself. Timing is everything. Timing, for sure. and tell your dh that it is ESSENTIAL for your RELATIONSHIP to make time for eachother. Put it on the calendar...date night. It would be great to do that once a week, but I know that my dh couldn't ever have, we didn't have the money. But Surely you can save up for a movie once a month. You guys have to remember why you got married in the first place, yes? Then, when you two are rock solid..you won't give a shit what anyone thinks of you and your marriage...not even the outlaws!
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is it weird that I want someone to read this on 2007-11-27 20:57:50 |
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Good for you to get your feelings out in the open. I think the worst part of feeling bad about yourself in any way is to keep it in the shadows. We are only as sick as the secrets we keep. I'm sure you are beautiful, and have probably only gained the freshman 15. Have you heard of it? Well, it's probably just a little protection since you're away from home and all. Let your bf say all the wonderful things he says to make you feel better and don't turn him away.
Be gentle with yourself!
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I cannot grieve on 2007-11-27 20:49:57 |
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I can relate to you on so many things. I lost my mother on Nov.1,2006. This past year was my first without her. My wieght has gone up and down all my life, I have been very skinny a few times and very overweight at others. Before she died, she saw me skinny again, but as I had to move in and take care of her, I started gaining weight again...my mother died of bulimia. I've blogged about it. My mom could turn love on and off like a light switch leading me to have very mixed and confused feelings about myself. Some of it was very abusive, not to mention my sick maggot bastard of a stepfather.
I'm working on my first novel. I think I have a pretty triumphant story. I think you do as well.
I want you to know I enjoyed your blog entry, and you have a sister in me.
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I am.... on 2007-11-27 13:43:35 |
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How fabulous! I wish I could still see myself as sexy after gaining 50 lbs. I just can't see it...I need to talk to you more often!
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Babies - Born to Baffle! on 2007-11-25 15:39:28 |
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Two words...Everything Changes. Bravo for thinking this through before you begin!
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Shadows in The Fields on 2007-11-25 15:33:35 |
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Wow! You have talent that I only wish to have. Fabu!
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BABY? To have or not to have.... on 2007-11-24 17:26:31 |
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wow! getting pregnant again! I couldn't do it, I'm 43. Although, three years ago, my husband wanted to try again. We would have had to reverse his vasectomy though. I told him, if he really wanted another one, I'd do it for him...but I had no fantasies about how wonderful it could be.
I'll wait (patiently) for grandchildren.
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flipping through old notebooks on 2007-11-24 17:01:51 |
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Nice! Thank you for sharing your talent.
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I HATE EVERYTHING on 2007-11-24 16:59:31 |
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Hey you know, don't let yourself entertain fantasies of suicide...I mean really, when you really think about it, there is so much to live for. I know that sounds trite, but it is the truth and your feelings about all this stuff will pass with time. Look at all the things that have happened since the last person who you knew died....and haven't some of those thing been worth hanging out for?
come on...be gentle with yourself....you're talking about a friend of mine...you!
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English is really crazy on 2007-11-24 05:02:16 |
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Why are apartments so close together? The english language is most certainly a mystery. good blog!
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Why English is tough on 2007-11-24 04:58:33 |
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Wait til you get to their, there and they're!
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I Want To Shout on 2007-11-23 18:32:19 |
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Be everything you want another to be. Be amazing...because you are! You are a child of the Universe, you have every right to be here. You are as perennial as the trees and the grass.
Be that...and you will find the other who completes you.
This from a woman who has been married 21 years...and happily!
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Blog on 2007-11-23 14:32:28 |
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Hey there! I'm on Whidbey Island! Good to see you blog!
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A sorry tale on 2007-11-23 01:30:36 |
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Hello! And welcome! I'm a bit of a newbie here as well.
Nice to meet you rupert7.
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Thanksgiving...yeah right... on 2007-11-21 12:44:21 |
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Betrayal...my mother was the worst. Now she's gone. I tried to cut myself off from her many years ago, only to find the same kind of person in different bodies. It's just the way life works. You will keep finding and fighting the lesson until it is for once and for all, learned.
We are dropped into families to learn, and ultimately grow. To rise above, not cowar. If you choose to stay away for holidays, fine. But don't stay away all together. Face them, head on! Learn about yourself as you observe them. You don't have to give you're heart away or trust blindly. In fact, do not! Ever.
I wish I could help you with the lessons I have learned about continually being abandoned and betrayed over and over. But it wasn't until I decided to tackle the real problems that I was able to heal.
Good luck to you, and be careful.
Whatever you do, have a Happy Thanksgiving. Peace.
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So thats the end of that then. on 2007-11-11 14:18:57 |
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As I blog, I'm watching the L word. do you know of it in the UK? So, forgive me if I wonder if you are a man or woman.
In any event, becoming friends with and ex-lover can be tricky. But the two of you seem to know that the relationship wasn't going to work and that friends may be the best course. The only question...can you see her happy and in love with another? If you can, friendship can be yours.
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You on 2007-11-11 13:54:38 |
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Totally makes me think of a guy I was in love with after a divorce. He was younger, I knew I couldn't keep him, but there were all these promises. 20 years later, I still wait to run in to him.
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Addictive... on 2007-11-11 13:48:16 |
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I love your post. I pick myself apart as much as you do. I read somewhere today, that we need to be more in touch with our uniqueness and separateness from others. Who says your chubby? Some kid on the playground? As for cleaning, well, I do it when I have the time and motivation. Other than that, if someone can't stand my home, don't come over, you know? I'll join you in that cigarette though!
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