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As I have mentioned before, dating and relatiosnships have changed a LOT since the last time I was part of the game. After my separation, everyone was lining up giving me advice on how to rejoin the dating game and what rules need to be followed. I almost wish that there are such a thing as dating referees, complete with the striped shitts, that you could hire to bring on a date with you. Then you would know immediately if your date is breaking the socially agreed upon rules. Here are some of the more interesting rules that have been passed onto me by my more expereinced dating friends.
1. The Deadline Rule-This was passed along by 2 female friends. This one states that if a guy doesn't call by 10PM on Wednesday night to make plans for the weekend, then be unavialable. I think this is a pretty reasonable rule, however, after a few dates, if I am into that person, this one can slide on ocassion.
2. The Phone Rule- If a guy calls and does not leave a message, I will not call back. Also, I try only to call men if I need to. For example, it I am running late for a date, common courtesy dictates a call, but I let the guy call me if he wants to chat.
3. Three Date Rule- This is one passed onto my by way guy friends. Bascially they say that some indication that sex is going to occur by the third date is needed or they dump the woman. However, they advised me to be careful of me who want to rush this rule. The example Steve gave me was: Friday night you go to dinner, Sunday you meet for cofee and then Wednesday for a movie, and you agree to another date on Friday. That is a clear example of "rushing" and the guy is attempting to break this rule, as the woman has really only had less than a week to decide if she wants to get naked with the guy. This is the rule that I would love to have a referee around to throw a card down and call a penalty for. So avoid breaking this rule, if after the first date, they guy suggests a follow up meeting withn a few days, I reply that I need to check my schedule and ask him to call me.
Finally, here is a dating rule that I think SHOULD exist:
GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP FREE CARD- If it were up to me, everyone would get a red card that they could lay down at any point during the first month of dating a person. Once you put this card down, you can walk away from the dating situation without any explaination whatsoever. No scene, no cliches, just a simple card to indicate the it is not working. I mean even Walmart takes stuff back for 30 days with a reciept right?
Comment and add any rules that you feel are appropriate. 
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Posted by singleat41 on 2008-07-01 09:43:49 | Rating: | Views: 118
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Personally I think "rules" are a little bit silly, just like the dating scene. But hey, that's just me. If it works for others, more power to them!
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Posted by Mezlie
on 2008-07-02 05:48:45
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Sadlym everyhting seems to have rules
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Posted by johannaguerra
on 2008-07-02 11:11:36
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You really have no idea about the female gender....now you have rules? The fact is this 99% of the ladies you meet will know in the first 5 minutes will know if they would want to have sex with you if that is what they are looking for and if you are looking for a serious relationship you have to ask yourself how serious? buddies, booty call, travel buds, marriage material....you are putting the female gender on a pedestal and to the most part they deserve to be there highly adored and worship but over all a women wants to be an equal partner having a say in a relationship and being taken serious and having rules and misleading them is not what a true Lover or a Casanova plays...a girl loves to be desired and in the end be happily romanced all girls do I don't care where they come from but also you will meet girls that wants it real if it is for the sex then that is great not all guys are marriage material and all girls know that...a female love sex just as much as men and crave it twice as much but as the ladies they are they are not going to spread those beautiful legs unless you can bring them to XTC or unless they feel pity for you or if they feel charitable which does happen. But if you are playing by the rules then you are playing a game be yourself, be confident and date someone that reflects the person you want to be because if you have everything in common then you have a start in a good relationship. Your best friend should be your wife but also you must also be mysterious and a point where both of you can still look at each other and say there is much more to him or her that I do not know and they want it all but you have to hold out...there really is no fun when you know the ending of a movie so leave room for surprises, excitement and openness that’s how I got my second wife in to bed with 2 of her best girl friends naked enjoying everything that a women has to offer on Christmas day...which was for me:)...You gotta love their honesty and passion and in the end that is what they want in return HONESTY and PASSION.
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Posted by JLOyola
on 2008-07-02 15:40:26
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Hate the call rule, a fuckin' ton.
What are we, cattle?
Only come when they call.
Fuckin' yeah right.
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Posted by StayingAlive
on 2008-07-02 16:29:04
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JL-I'm am talking about woman who want to find a partner, not a fuck. Staying Alive-I don't blame you for hating the call rule, but until I am commited to a man, that is the way it is. Once we have a committed bond then I will call.
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Posted by singleat41
on 2008-07-02 17:12:21
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BTW JL I agree that women wants sex as much as a woman, but most don't want a player like you for the long haul, trying to reform one is exhausting. You keep calling yourself a Latin Lover and a Casanova and act like woman fall all over you, well goood for you, but there are woman out there who prefer a more humble man whocan do other things besides have sex.
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Posted by singleat41
on 2008-07-02 17:16:40
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singleat41-Even the Lover, The Player and The Casanova find a time when they will settle down and start a meaningful relationship or a family and yes even marriage...I did...all I am saying is that a female wants the same thing a guy wants...a time to grow up, a time to play, a time to act like a fool and a time to say hey world I am ready for marriage but if you don't know how to read that in a women then you are going to have a difficult and very frustrating time meeting the right mate at the right time in her growing up process and even with all that I know about the female gender there is no guarantees you will end up with the girl of your dreams...I let my slip through my fingers many many years ago but what I have now is something that if would just stop being so difficult on myself is a wife that guys only dream about...
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Posted by JLOyola
on 2008-07-03 17:11:09
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