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Now, back in the day (80s) before I got married, One night stands were quite popular. As they were one of only 2 kinds of dating. Either you had a boyfriend or girlfriend or you had a one night stand.
During my teen years, a one night stand did not necessarily mean going all the way with someone, but afer graduation, it was generally assumed that it did mean sex.
Sometimes a ONS was with someone you knew and were perhaps friends with. My friend Jayleen for example had a ONS with our friend Doug. After that things were akward with them for a few days, but then they acknowledged that their ONS had been a mistake and were able to remain friends. However, more often than not, it was with someone you just met. Women I knew back then were more cautious of their reputations and would often have a ONS with someone that did not live in their neighborhood or go to the same school, as they did not want the pool of potential boyfriends to know they had engaged in a ONS.
Once I split up with my ex-husband and began dating again, I quickly discovered that the ONS had faded in popularity. It seems that it has given way to more lasting(although, not committed ) breeds of quasi-relationships, including both Friends wih Benefits and Hook-Up Buddies( I will write about the differences between these two later).
There do seem to be circumstances when the tradational ONS is still socially acceptable, such as when you are out of town on business or one vacation(although during vacation a fling is much bettter). But the bar ONS seems to be a thing of the past, at least for woman in their 30s and 40s. Why? I think that because of the high rate of STDs, including HIV, that woman want to know more about their partner before jumping in the sack with them. Woman seem to be exercising greater control( at least physcially) over their sexuality than in the 80s, which is a good thing in a lot of ways, but does have its drawbacs (subject for a future article)
Only one of my single girlfriends has had a ONS, and that was when she went to Dallas in business, guess she "saved a horse and rode a cowboy". I should add for the sake of the readers that I have never had a ONS, so this is all research based.
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Posted by singleat41 on 2008-06-17 08:33:49 | Rating: | Views: 84
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Sad to say I've had a couple of ONS...with ppl I actually knew beforehand...not with total strangers...could never do that...stds and all...yikes! I almost recently did the same but at the time I was 'interested' in someone and just couldn't go there...loyalty and all...So I guess I'm just an old fashioned girl...I'll wait for the real thing..It's worth it...
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Posted by dreampower
on 2008-06-17 08:45:47
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I've had 1 one night stand but it's not because I think it's "wrong". It's mostly because sex for me is better when I really WANT someone and unless I happen to meet some totally hot stranger in a bar, I am not usually attracted to someone enough to throw my inhibitions to the wind and have sex with him. I like the buildup, the emotional connection etc.
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-06-17 10:40:09
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after i got divorced n started dating guys i met on the local dating site, i was appalled to discover that a lot guys r just looking for thrills, n expect sex, not necessarily expecting a relationship. needless to say most of my dates never progessed to more than a few meetings cos, that's not what i want, it'd be meaningless to me. which makes me think, why cant a decent guy be sexy yet a gentleman with honorable intentions at the same time?
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Posted by 40fabulouslonely
on 2008-06-19 11:41:23
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one night stand: self explanitory
friendboys and friendgirls: exactly like a boyfriend or girlfriend but no title
friends with benefits: you sleep with someone you know but your "just friends"
fun buddy: person you barely knew b4 the physical part but you call on just to party and ah-hem ya know. these can also be referred to as fuck buddies and booty calls
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Posted by verymary
on 2008-07-04 00:47:29
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