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Even though we have a biracial candidate and hopefully president, many people are still opposed to black men and white women dating and mating.
Where, I live, gay dating is very acceptable, but when I, as a white woman go places with my black boyfriend, at least ONE person gives us the stare down. Including gay couples. The most ironic was when we were at a local eatery last night and seated next to an interracial lesbian couple. As they got up to leave, the black woman in this couple turns to my guy and murmurs, "sell out". WTF?????
Now, I understand all the social dynamics of black men choosing a white partner. My black female friends, including my boyfriend's sister, who fixed us up has given me the run down on how the supply of college educated black men is scarce and that white woman taking them adds to the burden. I know how black men have been physically hurt for dating white woman in the past, and I really acknowledge that white people have privilege. However, it boils down to the attraction between two people. Prior to meeting me, my man had never dated a white woman, but he was attracted to me as a person, and that is what counts. That is not the case with all black men. My previous boyfriend had never dated a black woman, and only dated Irish red heads( yeah he is limited).
I often get asked by white males why I only date black men. They often think that is has to do with the size of a certain male appendage. That really is a myth. I explain that I find black men more appealing and that is that. Particularly Jamaican men. Everyone that I have meet has a romantic air of confidence and knows how to treat a woman. On an intellectual level, I feel more equal to a black man, as they don't seek to outwit me or are threatened by my Independence.
In this day and age, love should be color and gender blind, so go about your business and don't stare at folks.
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Posted by singleat41 on 2008-06-28 22:14:25 | Rating: | Views: 245
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Amen girl! Geez, Sometimes I really do feel like my boyfriend and I are singled out in so many ways. Its come down to, when we are both out and we see another interracial couple, we both get excited. Like little kids going to toys r us or something. Like in my blog, I see how much of a difference there is between states and atmospheres with people...Ugh! It makes me sick most of the time too. But like you said and myself we also understand the other side of things and why sometimes we do get the "stare down." Great post sweetie!!
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Posted by Snapz
on 2008-06-29 12:56:02
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Yeah, race means nothing, really. I do like seeing interracial couples, though, it's very uplifting. :)
I guess in the end it comes down to the whole thing most of us learn when we're little, about not judging people on the colour of their skin. It's very true, though.
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Posted by Mezlie
on 2008-06-30 07:11:00
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I've dated white men and as a black women I get the stare down from both black men and women. Somehow I've sold out twice. You do your thing and forget about everyone else.
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Posted by Chloe2004
on 2008-06-30 19:42:19
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Chloe,
It is too bad that you have gotten the stare down. It sucks. I will keep doing my thing and you keep doing yours.
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Posted by singleat41
on 2008-07-01 08:41:04
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it is sad that people give u looks. i personally believe every one should interracialy date. My parents are an interracial couple they have and they have friends who give them looks. i have dated interracialy and if you love some one iit shouldnt matter what the color of there skin is
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Posted by justachillkid95
on 2008-11-20 12:11:43
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