So, I never want to help out with a party again. My friend, T let us have a Halloween party at her house this weekend. It's something my friends and I have always wanted to do, but someone was either out of town or pregnant or something. Anyway, so back in September we all said "hey, let's do it this year". My friend T volunteered to have it at her house, which was fine with me since I had my 30th birthday bash at mine in July, and my house is still suffering from it.

So like we do with all our parties (baby showers, bridal showers, birthday parties, etc), we all just assumed the roles we always do and kept in touch with everyone about everything we may have gotten at the store. Then all of a sudden, T cancels the party. Said she was feeling like nobody was helping out and nobody was really into it. What the fuck ever. I was so pissed off. She canceled it one week before the party. Everyone already put their time and money into the party and into their costumes. Then the next day after arguing with all of us, she apologizes for being crazy and the party is back on.

We get to the party, and realize that the only thing that T has even done, is let us use her house. All the decoration, the food, the music, the chairs, EVERYTHING was provided and purchased by US. The only thing she spent money on was her stupid $20 fog machine that was only used about three times. And costume. My other friend, C, showed up an hour or so early to the party and said that nothing was done and so she put all the decorations up. Nobody helped her (nobody being T and her dick of a boyfriend). Another thing we did was buy T a birthday cake and presents because her birthday is next weekend and we knew that there was no way we could all swing doing something two weekends in a row (we all are married and have kids). She actually told us "thanks for the cake and gifts....but you can all come out to dinner with me this week, right?".  Nevermind that we all are now stay at home moms, living off our husbands income. She has her dick boyfriend and his money (he's always bragging about it), her awesome paying job and an ex husband and two sets of parents to pawn her kid off to. We don't have anything. So we're all saying no to dinner, because we spent a lot of money on the party and we're all broke. Is that so wrong? 

Ok, so maybe I won't stop helping out with parties. But we all have agreed that T is no longer allowed to host one. Her version of a party is completely different from ours. Which is crazy, because we've all been friends for fifteen years or more, but never realized how freaking neurotic she had become until all of this drama happened. 

Just venting.  Will probably delete this later anyway.