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I thought I might blog about the watch I received for x-mas, since it is intertwined with so much other stuff going on in my life with g/f...
G/f asked me before x-mas what kind of watch I would like. I really didn't want a watch; I don't wear much jewelry and honestly sometimes I feel guilty for wearing such pieces of fashion when people are starving and struggling all over the world. But, I coalesced; as she perused a website I showed her that I only liked the ones that had really wide, thick bands and I didn't like the ones that looked like something a fu@#*ng banker would wear. I don't care about cost or brand. I've had an expensive watch before and I don't care about that anymore. Anywho, low and behold, on x-mas, I open my present and what to my wondering eyes should appear from beneath the wrapping paper? Why, it's a new expensive ($300) watch, which looks nothing like what I picked. Now, normally I would just say thank you and wear it - since I grew up in a poor farming family. We grew up being grateful for whatever gift was bestowed upon us. But, in this case things are different b/c she specifically asked for a number of things (at least 3) which had to be by a certain maker and a certain model. I made sure that she received these things, verbatim as requested. So when I told her "thanks" for the watch in a lackluster tone and shoved it back in the package, she sensed that I wasn't happy, even though I was very nice about it. But honestly, I was a little hurt, b/c I had went to so much trouble to insure that she got everything she asked for, yet she disregarded even the basic style of watch that I liked. She even argued with me about it, telling me that it was a very good watch - which was never in question. I guess I was just sensitive about the issue since it seems that my whole life has been this sort of selfishness from my parents. They sort of disregarded what me and my siblings wanted, giving us what they deemed that we should have. Needless to say I didn't grow up spoiled by any means, but at the same time, I feel hurt that she didn't buy me what she knew I wanted...
Anyway, the saga continues. We had a big argument about the watch a few days after x-mas and on the same day, just out of spite, g/f ran out to Target and found the cheapest, wide-band watch she could find ($15) and immediately shoved it in my hands - as if to say, "here you go, you have no taste, but have it your way." That really burned me and I told her that although I liked watch no. 2 (oh yeah, there's more than 2 in this story), I would always think of her spitefullness every time that I looked at the watch, which was true. So anywho, here we are 2 weeks + out from x-mas, and I guess she is feeling a little guilty. She ran out to a store today and bought another watch for me, this time a little more expensive, and nicer, yet still not one of my choosing. I hate to be ungrateful, but damn, she just doesn't get it. I could care less about a watch. It's the principle of the matter, which is that she doesn't value my opinion enough to let me pick a watch out for myself. It's insulting. And increasing scope, look at us: quibbling over a stupid watch. Would those who are so much less fortunate be more than happy to be in our shoes?!
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Posted by shinsfrommars on 2008-01-13 22:50:02 | Rating: | Views: 52
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thats a great post. sorry i'm not going to give any advice cause i'm not even sure you are looking for it, but i just had to say that this is a great post. You told so much about you, your life, and an huge issue in your life, by telling a succinct and well thought story. This post is unlike most on thoughts.com, and is one of the few that are actually well thought out and well written.
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Posted by NewYearREZ
on 2008-01-13 22:57:47
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