| View Blog
|
|
|
|
G/f got crazy on me again last night. That's what drives me crazy about females sometimes. And I hate to come off as sexist, but let me generalize anyway. G/f was doing so well yesterday, and then at the end of the night as we sat around watching tv, winding down for bed, she started. I suppose she was reading blogs online about relationships, and she apparently started her own. Of particular interest to her in the blogs she read were subjects of relationships going awry, with problems related to infidelity, extra-relationship sex (threesomes) and the like. I was trying to watch "Dirty Harry" (I'm a big fan of Eastwood), and she kept peppering me with questions about what I would do in the situations that individuals were writing about on a blog site. I don't mind answering questions or discussing boundaries in our own relationship, but she seemed to be getting at something else. In general, she is never satisfied with my responses to her questions or to "what if's", and so we go down "rabbit holes" and on tangents discussing hypothetical situations that will likely never occur. From my vantage point, it seems that it's never enough to her that during the year we've been together, I never lie, cheat on her, mislead her, exclude her, tell her I love her enough, etc. Believe me, I do all the things a good b/f would do, but that doesn't matter to a person who has severe insecurity issues. I've finally come to realize that she always seems to assume that its only a matter of time before I cheat on her or lie to her. She always seems poised to try to catch me in a lie or situation that I shouldn't be in. Yet I'm never in these situations. When she questioned me last night about a situation she read about where the male had attractive female coworkers one of whom he was attracted to (even though he was in a loving, committed relationship), I told her that it was possible to be attracted to other people but not act on that attraction b/c love and committment was more important than a little lust. I made an example of how monica belucci or some other hot supermodel/actress could be placed in an office with me and I would definetely be attracted to her, but that doesn't mean I'll give up a good relationship to try to sleep with her. She acted as if I were trying to b/s her and disregarded what I said, as if I were being untruthful - as if every man is being controlled by his penis and is not trustworthy - which offends me. So now apparently she's blogging about me on some site, imbellishing the truth (as usual) to solicit the response that she wants to hear that supports her insecurity problem: Men shouldn't be trusted and they will break your heart! How the f$%^ did I get into this situation???
Even at lunch today, after getting mad at her yesterday and telling her that I was sick of her attitude of mistrust and that it appears things between us will never change, she got mad at me b/c I wouldn't have lunch with her. Keep in mind that we have lunch all the time and we just spent the last 5 days together 24 hours a day, with no break whatsoever. When she asked what I was doing for lunch, I told her I didn't know, but I didn't really want to have lunch with her. She accused me of lying and said that I had plans with someone else, which was false. Why is it that she has huge trust issues?? It has nothing to do with me, I'm certain. And her therapist didn't seem to think that she had a trust/insecurity issue. hmm...as I've said before, I'm a big proponent of therapy, and I'm the one who convinced g/f to go to a therapist, but how can the therapist be so wrong? Maybe she'll figure it out over time, but I'm not sure if I can take this much longer.
|
|
Posted by shinsfrommars on 2008-01-22 14:45:30 | Rating: | Views: 152
|
|
| |
|
|
| Blog Comments
|
|
|
|
|
Hello .How old is this lady?Sounds like there is alot years between you too.Read you Blog over again and you tell me what is wrong.Shelly
|
|
Posted by shellyme
on 2008-01-22 14:51:46
|
|
|
|
|
How long have you been together... Sounds like she's got trust issues from past relationships and she's concluding since previous people have done it to her, you are going to do it to her too... A lot of people do that... blame new flames for things old flames did... Seems to me you guys really need to get to the bottom of why she is so untrusting of you... Good Luck! :)
|
|
Posted by helen1282
on 2008-01-22 15:49:19
|
|
|
|
|
she is 31, basically the same age as me. I read my blog over again and I figured it out: my g/f has a HUGE f&%^ing insecurity problem. wow, I guess that makes me a genius. Thanks for the comments.
|
|
Posted by shinsfrommars
on 2008-01-22 20:43:17
|
|
|
|
|
Well, having a partner like that myself, I can sympathize. Sometimes I just feeling like taking lunch on my own or grocery shop alone. He always takes offense that either I'm trying to do something nefarious or that I don't love him enough to want to be around him. I don't even bother to try to have a night out without him. It would be the end of our relationship, or atleast start a fight of that magnitude. It doesn't matter, I don't have any chick friends to go out with anyways. Since I dont go out on my own and would never go out with the few guy friends I have.
|
|
Posted by CryDemiFey
on 2008-01-29 17:50:03
|
|
|
|
|
|
Email This to a Friend 
