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The Day from HELL!! Seriously...

Sunday was move in day at my daughter's college. Saturday night we packed the van full of all of her belongings. I have to brag on my daughter because she packed by herself with no help from me. She asked her dad to go along to wire everything up in his perfect way, as he makes everything neat and tidy and it passes all inspections.

Last week sometime, Sunshine (my daughter) had received an email from her new room mate that she and her boyfriend had had a fight and that he had punched a hole in the wall of their room. YIKES!!! She hung a picture over it for inspection and asked my daughter not to mention it during her inspection. She of course did not want to get this girl in trouble, and make an enemy of her first thing, so she agreed. Her parents did not of course. I think if this boy is that violent he should not be allowed into their suite. Worse even, he has left all of his belongings in their suite to be moved when they return. He apparently lived there with her over the summer.

This being Sunshine's junior year she has moved up to suite living and we were all so looking forward to her having more space and most importantly having a private bath to share with only one other person..Woot! After showering in a concrete cubicle that is 4 feet from 4 toilets, for the past two years .she was uber excited about this privacy and the luxury of taking long baths.

We were a little ambivilant about her new roommate..and her boyfriend..but as we usually do..we decided to move on in without any negativity. The suite consists of a living/kitchen/dining room with two bedrooms one on each side. Each bedroom has two beds and a private bath with a dressing room. NICE!!!

Much to our chagrin, the roommate who had spent the entire summer in this suite..had not completed the cleaning required before check in of her suite mates. We were met with a note of a judicial hearing for her about the inspection. They gave her 48 hours to clean the entire suite. Problem is..she is off in California with her bf..you know mr..fists hit the wall when we are angry. Needless to say the suite was dirty..especially the floor. We were putting Sunshine's things in the closet and found what appeared to be cat/dog poop in the floor. YIKES!!

Having had enough, I went downstairs to find the ADULT over this particular dorm. We asked him to come upstairs and look at the hole in the wall and the poop, dirty floors etc. He explains that this young lady (ahem) is quite violent and gets upset easily. He has had a lot of trouble with her in the past..and is over her. He could not discuss specifics (privacy laws) but suffice it to say this is not her first rodeo. My daughter gets upset and starts crying. OH DEAR!!! Thank goodness my husband was ensconced in the car..as this would have blown his lid. I tell this man..something has to be done. I do not appreciate having to move my daughter into unsanitary conditions..blah blah blah..
Let me remind you this is a private college..some 34,000 per year and half of that is room and board. HELLO!! Not worth the money to live in filth.

He assured me that he would push for a severe punishment and hopefully she won't be in my daughter's room for long. Though I have tried to reassure Sunshine that something will be done, she is still freaking out that this girl will come back and go ballistic on her. She was told that if she starts screaming (which is her MO), to leave the room and get security. I told him that I didn't think this girl needed room mates and maybe she should be in a room by herself. We'll see.

We left our daughter there upset..and we were upset. YUCK!! It is not easy walking away from your child (yes, even if she is 20), knowing that she is in possible danger. Knowing that she is upset and scared.

As we drove home, I just got angrier. I came straight in and wrote an e-mail to the Dean of Students..the lady who is over their welfare. I told her about the unsanitary conditions and told her that the other three young ladies deserved to live in clean, quiet, stable environments that were conducive to learning. I asked her to look in to this girl's history at the college and see if she does deserve to remain there. If she does stay that she be moved from my daughters room. I expressed my anger that I had to leave her there upset and unable to even take a shower for the next week. I gave her all of my contact information and I am now awaiting her call.

I got a message from my daughter this morning that her eyes are swollen from crying and she has a headache. We did not unpack all of her things..due to the upheaval..she may be moving, so she is unsure where the alleve is. So ..Yuck! The old saying..if it is not one thing..it is another..comes to mind. Oh well!! Life goes on. I will keep you updated. Pray for my Sunshine..she is such a sweetie and deserves better than this.

peace :) shemelts

Posted by shemelts on 2008-08-25 08:49:22 | Rating:

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		Poor Sunshine! How awful! How far away is she? I would have stayed in a hotel and charged the school. That is totally inappropriate to do to innocent people. And if she has a violent boyfriend who knows what he is capable of. I will pray for her but I hope for her sake and yours that she gets out of that room asap! The school is putting her safety at risk, especially if they have to "warn" her about what to do if the violent roommate is upset. That is ridiculous. I am so sorry! Let us know how it works out.
Posted by KarKar on 2008-08-25 12:35:57


		This post got me so upset. How horrible for, Sunshine. I can't believe the school would be so remiss about something like this or even allow others to move into a dirty room with animal waste. The psycho girl should be evicted and a cleaning crew sent into the room immediately. If that's not possible Sunshine should be moved to another room. Sunshine will be in my prayers ... please keep us updated. Peace.
Posted by ColoradoDreamin on 2008-08-25 13:53:34


		KarKar and CD.she is 50 miles away from us. The Dean of Students has been in contact with me all a.m. She understands our concerns and is promising to clear this up immediately. The two other suite mates moved out today. The roommate from hell..has dropped out of college. The college is moving my daughter into another room until her suite is completely cleaned and sanitized and this way she will not be there when psycho roommate returns from Cali. tomorrow to move her things out(and his). We are going back up to take her to dinner tonight and smooth out her ruffles. That is what love will do for ya..Make you run 100 miles to fix things up. Thank you for your prayers and concerns. peace :) shemelts
Posted by shemelts on 2008-08-25 14:16:54


		I'm so glad they are clearing everything up! I hope you have a wonderful dinner with her and that everything works out without any problems!!!!
Posted by KarKar on 2008-08-25 15:18:10


		Thanks for the update. I feel so much better. I'm glad you are taking, Sunshine, out to dinner. She needs the support and love of her family at a time such as this. Not a good way to start the school year. Please give her a hug from me. Saying a prayer that everything, from here on out, goes perfectly for her. Peace.
Posted by ColoradoDreamin on 2008-08-25 16:20:35


		This is so hard for you. Because our education system is quite different, I take it it is like our University Halls of Residence? If so, I would simply demand that she is given a new room. That is archaic to expect her to live like that. I'm not surprised you are so upset. She is used to a good, comfortable, clean home and why should she lower her standards AND pay for it. I will pray now that there is a good solution to this so that you can both get a good night's sleep. God bless.
Posted by overthehillandfar... on 2008-08-26 03:45:45


		Geez! It's hard enough sending your babies off to school, but to have to go through THAT? ARGH!! I feel for ya, girl! Good for you for sticking to your guns and getting it fixed.
Posted by BootLady on 2008-08-26 07:42:50


		that sounds like a tough spot to be in... I hope that all works out. As a parent you want to make sure things are perfect for your children. I jsut hope she does not have to deal with to much trouble once her room mate comes back. we should send the thoughts Mofia to watch over her lol
Posted by DouglasMB on 2008-08-26 08:54:35


		Well I for one don't blame you at all for being upset!!! And your poor daughter for that matter even more upset! Yes if that girl is that violent and trouble-making I don't think anyone should be forced to room with her!!! Especially at that bill of 34,000. I'd call and call and call until it was resolved. I wouldn't wait for a return call!!!!! I just said a little prayer for her. I hope this mess ends soon!
Posted by anotherdaze on 2008-08-26 11:31:32