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The Butterfly Theory.....
I always thought the butterfly theory was just plain stupid, and unrealistic. What is the butterfly theory, you ask. It is this one:
If you love something set it free, if it comes back to you, it is yours. If it doesn't, it never was!
Hmmm, now how does that make any sense at all? If you've been in a relationship and had hard times, hard enough to want to leave, you surely do not want to come back. If you love someone deeply, you can't let them go, even if you know they will come back, as things will never be the same. So this theory, while it sounds sweet, is just not realistic.
I've been married a very long time, longer than some of you have been alive. All of the times I wanted to throw open the doors and run to the hills, the thought of coming back never entered my mind. What kept me here, well many things actually. One of which was the notion that perhaps I would not be happier out in the big wide world alone and what is happy by the way?
Though I always knew I would not be alone for long, I did always wonder if the person I picked up my life and moved on with, would be worse than the one I left. My mom and I had a theory that everyone had their flaws and since we were familiar with our husbands flaws, why leave and get someone with worse ones (though my dad had the fatal flaw of alcoholism, nothing could be worse). We imagined that jumping from the frying pan into the fire, would not be that great, so we stayed put. Not sure if that was the right answer either.
The notion that one day I would look R.J. in the eyes and say, you can go..find yourself, and when you do, come back to me, is a ludicrous one. I am much more likely to say..Don't let the screen door hit you on your way out. I know full well that in finding himself, he is liable to pick up some germs that won't wash out with bleach, and if he leaves...I will not let him come back. Not to fear folks, I couldn't force this man to leave, even if I had a red hot pitch fork. Likely as not should we ever part, I'd be the one to go. It wouldn't be a kiss at the door on my way out either, I'd have to sneak out the door the minute he left for work and put a good eight hours between us before he found out.
Now never fear, our relationship is intact. What brought this on? The song by David Cook..Come Back to me, which I have included here. Oh and by the way, the crazy girl that left this man, she doesnt deserve to come back. I'd drink his bath water. Okay, that was a joke, but I would run his bath water, and bathe him and ..um yeah. I'll hush and let you listen to the song. Enjoy!!
You say you got to go and find yourself
You say that you've become someone else
Don't recognize the face in the mirror looking back at you
You say you're leaving as you look away
I know there's really nothing left to say
Just know I'm here whenever you need me, I'll wait for you
So I'll let you go I'll set you free
And when you see what you need to see
When you find you
Come back to me
Take your time I won't go anywhere
Picture you with the wind in your hair
I keep your things right where you left them I'll be here for you
And I'll let you go I'll set you free
And when you see what you need to see
When you find you
Come back to me
I hope you find everything that you need
I'll be right here waiting to see
When you find you
Come back to me
I can't get close if you're not there
I can't get inside if there's no soul to bare
I can't fix you, I can't save you
It's something you have to do
So I'll let you go I'll set you free
And when you see what you need to see
When you find you
Come back to me
Come back to me
So I'll let you go I'll set you free
And when you see what you need to see
When you find you
Come back to me
I hope you find everything that you need
I'll be right here waiting to see
When you find you
Come back to me
Now woooo now woooo
When you find you come back to me
Now wooo now wooo
when you find you come back to me
When you find you
Come back to me
Peace and Love and all that Jazz!! :) shemelts
Posted by shemelts on 2009-11-08 09:19:01 | Rating: | Views: 98
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