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*Disclaimer..to my sweet daughter "sunshine"..Sweetie..this post will be a little too much for you. Yes dear, mom and dad had sex..yikes..I know the pictures floating in your mind..Turn off the laptop..go wash out your eyes..put on some music and take a walk..cause mom needs to say some things.. Ha!!
Good, now that Sunshine has left the building..update on hubby and I. Yesterday..he texted me most of the day from work. He does not have an office job, he is a welder. The effort that this took, did not go unnoticed by me. He apologized for his angry outburst and reminded me that he worked 55 hours last week, not to mention the work he put in outside digging the entire backyard up (to repair water line), by hand. His stress level was overloaded, and while that is not an excuse..it was a factor.
I am by nature a forgiving person. I told him that I will forgive his anger and his outburst..but it will be some time before I forget the things he said. He accepted this and promised to try hard to think before he speaks. Since my birthday, we have enjoyed a little sexting..via text messaging. Silly I know, but a hot conversation is a hot conversation and there is something about seeing it in writing that does something to me.
I learned a long time ago..to leave all negative baggage outside the bedroom door. I do not, will not, and don't believe in withholding sex because your angry. I believe that sex fixes things in a relationship..as it gives you the opportunity to express your love for one another and brings you closer together. That is not to say that if you are on the brink of divorce..if you go at it like rabbits..ta-da all will be well.
What I am saying is this..if you love each other, and have a relationship that you WISH to hold onto..then engaging in sex will make each of you feel a little better about things. Men express themselves physically even when they can't say what they need to say. Women can draw you a picture, diagram and a map to what they need and want (usually)..men have to show you.
With this said, I want to remind you of your bridal shower..advice time..DON"T GO TO BED MAD!! Seems a little nuts, cause if you are mad when you go to bed, then you will be going to bed mad. What this really means is: folks..don't let your anger slip into your bed. Withholding sex from him/her
is also withholding sex from you. Big angry gaps are put into the relationship by this practice. Opportunities to get closer and work through problems are missed. Leave the baggage outside the door. Touching and being touched is something we all need and want. We have millions of nerve endings in our skin for this very reason. Sex releases hormones that our bodies need to stay healthy, and it just feels good. AHEM!!
Back to the subject..yes folks we enjoyed sex last night, and afterwards he held me really close for a long time. Reconnecting after an argument is hard, but the effort can be really enjoyable. Make up sex as they call it, is always more intense than other sex (at least for us). So we are in recovery mode and all is well with the world, for the moment.
Thanks for all the kind words and encouragement. You guys are all great. It is nice to have support in times of trouble. You lifted me up, and given the opportunity, I will reciprocate.
peace :D shemelts
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Posted by shemelts on 2008-08-19 06:45:55 | Rating: | Views: 105
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Firstly can I say SEXTING Is Not SILLY!!!! It is fun, and it adds new elements to a relationship! I'm glad you guys sorted it out... I guess TONYRAY is right... LOVE ALWAYS WIN! :)
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-08-19 06:59:59
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I think you're right...sex is the closest you can be to another person and when you are feeling distant, it brings you back together and you reconnect in a way you don't with anyone else. I don't think it is a cure all to problems, but it sure helps put you in the right direction when things aren't going so well. I am glad you are in recovery mode....so much more calming...we need to take the moments when they are given to us and just enjoy! :)
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Posted by slowtolearn
on 2008-08-19 07:40:12
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Well said. Really, I agree with you 100%. And sexting is a great idea! Why not! I try it, but I never know what to say, so it always ends up with me being silly and giving up! But you go girl! Your right, withholding sex from your spouse is withholding sex from yourself!
It's nice to know how hard he is trying! I can tell he truly loves you! And while you are still hurting inside by the words, at least you know you are loved! Right? If not, let me know and I'll read you your posts!
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Posted by KarKar
on 2008-08-19 14:21:37
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*sighs*...I love happy endings....
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Posted by dreampower
on 2008-08-20 02:49:12
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I agree, sexting is fun. But on the odd occassion when I have, I worry that when hubby is in a meeting and gets my message, someone will be looking over his shoulder! *lol*
I'm so glad things are better for you. You are so honest with your thoughts and feelings....so glad I found you....or did you find me? *lol* Take care of you :)
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Posted by Kaybee
on 2008-08-20 06:12:11
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Great post! really like your style.
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Posted by anonimo1922
on 2008-08-20 23:20:20
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