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I should have known this was a bad idea from the start. He was married but separated when we met. He had two biological kids plus his wife had a kid before she met him. Once we got together, he finally took the steps to file for divorce. I was already filing for divorce. Things were great in the beginning, but I felt he was clueless. He had been separated from his wife for about two years. She was living in a different state. He was sending her money for his child nd her child. She was living off of public assistance, being a lazy bitch and fucking anyone who would have her. He was supporting on of their children who lived with him.

The courts established child support for their case. He was ordered to pay less than he was paying. We eventually got divorced from our ex spouses and began our new life, which included moving to a new state. Like I said, I should have known this was a bad decision. Along the way, she got a job. He never bothered going back to court to see if they would reduce his child support amount. After all, he was basically supporting both of their children and she was having the time of her life. We became pregnant and things were ok. I had a lot of money and paid for ALOT of things. I didn't mind as I have always been able to take care of myself with whatever I had. I make do and make adjustments. I don't need to live an extravagant, materiallistic life. I just want to be happy. I know it sounds so cliche, but it is true.

Once we moved states, I bought a home and paid a lot of the bills. We finally came to a point where we would both pay some of the bills. Fine.

Now, I am pregnant with our second child and he is shiestier than ever. We both have jobs. He makes more than I do. I am the primary caretaker for the three children in our home and I work two jobs. All I ask is that he put in a fair share of money to cover what needs to be covered. Often times, this leaves him with little money left over. The same happens to me when I pay bills from my check. I can deal with it because I am an adult and these things comes with the territory.

Lately, he's been giving me less money than normal. This is despite the fact that we are supposed to be trying to buy a new home, we are expecting a child and we have to pay half the cost of his children's travel expenses.

I tried explaning that we need to save for these things so they don't cut into our normal expenses. He doesn't seem to care though. He leaves the stress of the bills up to me. To buy a new home, we will need a down payment. Each one of my doctor's visits require a copay. Labs cost extra money. We will have to pay a deductible (and probably 10%) to the hospital for the birth of our child. His children travel two to three times a year. This costs money. But still he won't come out of the pocket. Why is it ok for me to have to go broke paying everything when he could give me a little more money. I mean we're talking $100 per paycheck, give or take a couple of dollars.

The funny thing is he never has a problem sending his ex money. He claims it is for his child, but she works. Why can't she contribute more to the cost of caring for their child? I'm not saying this out of spite either. As a woman, I support my child from a previous marriage and would never expect for his father to pay for all costs.

He could have requested increased visitation (which now is about 4 weeks MAX out of the year) and that would lower his payments to her. The child he has custody of has a MAX of 14 weeks a year with his ex. He could also have the courts look at the financials. He could have done all of this but instead, he chooses to fully support her and her whorish ways while I take the burden of going broke because he wants to have money for himself.

Men don't see a good woman for what she is. It seems that it is the whores and dumb women who get everything handed to them.

Yes, I am bitter. Bitter and angry that he cares for his other family more than he does this one.