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I feel so alone.....
Yet I have been married to the same woman for over 25 years....
Our marriage is virtually sexless....
I purchase a box of "protection" before our wedding day.... A dozen items of safety..... And I have yet to require replenishing this initial supply....
My wife, while not frigid, is afraid of her sex organ and cannot permit / enjoy penetration. Sex has only been for procreation, with the exception of consumation of our marriage and a random digression..... All in all, I would estimate 8 sexual encounters in more than 25 years....
Am I alone? ...... I would love to know ....
Yet, I love my wife, my best friend...... I could never leave her.... Yet if I died tomorrow, I would feel so incomplete, so unfulfilled....
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Posted by sexless on 2007-08-09 14:47:41 | Rating: | Views: 228
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Not to ask a question that hasn't been asked before, but...Have you talked to her about it? Have you considered seeing a marriage counsilor/ sex therapist?
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Posted by consistentlyincon...
on 2007-08-09 19:06:57
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have her see a doctor. that is sad
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Posted by iamnotsam
on 2007-08-10 13:08:22
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This cannot be normal. I agree that counseling could be beneficial. Do you think there may be some trauma in her past to make her fearful? Penetration may be painful because of lack of lubrication or some physical problem. Has she seen a gynecologist about it?
If she allows herself the pleasure of masturbation, she may open up a little to exploring her own body and bringing herself to orgasm. If she can get to that point, then perhaps she could open up to you more.
Hope you don't mind my asking, but have you been faithful to her all this time? I only ask because I can't imagine anyone with a healthy sex drive (as I'm assuming you have) going without sex for so long. Even from a purely physical standpoint.
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Posted by bellaroux
on 2007-08-10 21:27:27
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25 years but you did it only 8 times???? you're joking, right?? This is so unbelievable!!
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Posted by FabZest
on 2007-08-22 20:30:00
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HI,
There is a really good book called Surviving A Sexless Marriage:Or Not in February 2008 by Xlibris Publishing. I have been in a 20 year sexless marriage. There is always more to the story and there is always to sides to every story. For one thing married couples have to first realized that they are as ONE and for some reason, selfishness put a halt to that which in turn cause problems. Don't give up trust me there is HOPE. After 20 years I now have hope. Let me know how you are doing
I will be praying for you and your wife
Goldenlady2049
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Posted by goldenlady2049
on 2008-01-20 14:55:06
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Wow, I am having trouble because it's been a month. I can't even imagine. I still believe it's something you can work on together.
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Posted by prelude2it
on 2008-02-28 15:21:54
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Are you alone? No way. Just look around the internet you'll find hundreds if not thousands of people in long term sexless marriages.
I always chuckle at those who complain "it's been a month" or "it's been a year" Try 20 years!
Some people may be compatible in every way except in the bedroom. And this makes it all that much harder because if it's just sex that's terrible and everything else is great it seems silly to give up a good thing just for sex.
In my case I had no problems finding sex when I was single and that makes not having it now even harder.
But misery loves company and like I said there are thousands of us out there.
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Posted by jojo115
on 2008-07-23 17:56:13
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Are you alone? No way. Just look around the internet you'll find hundreds if not thousands of people in long term sexless marriages.
I always chuckle at those who complain "it's been a month" or "it's been a year" Try 20 years!
Some people may be compatible in every way except in the bedroom. And this makes it all that much harder because if it's just sex that's terrible and everything else is great it seems silly to give up a good thing just for sex.
In my case I had no problems finding sex when I was single and that makes not having it now even harder.
But misery loves company and like I said there are thousands of us out there.
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Posted by jojo115
on 2008-07-23 17:56:18
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