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In my last meeting with my attorney, I gave him copies of checks that I had been sending the ass every month since my son moved into his house. This amount represents the difference of child support for 1 child vs. 2 children. My attorney made the comment about ass possibly not even being entitled to the checks.
Last week I sent an email to the attorney's office asking if I should send the ass a check for this month, based on the statement he made during our last meeting. I have not gotten a response yet, but it was only Friday. I get a text message from the ass this morning stating - "why don't you text teen son and ask him if he needs his money this month - dead beat mom - wow" Hmmmm, I have so many thoughts and emotions on this, some of which I am not even sure I am entitled to.
Son is 19 years old, why isn't he working? What is ass teaching him by allowing him to not work. He is only going to school 2 1/2 days each week.
Ass has made it appear that son is a finiancial burdon to him now that he lives there and that I do nothing help whatsoever. Should I withhold the checks and let him get a feeling of truly supporting son on his own? I do help. Hell, I just gave teen son gas money 2 days ago.
For over 12 years I had to fight in court to make the ass support his children. I spent thousands of dollars making sure he upheld his end of the bargain, as far as supporting them. Mind you, it was him taking me to court to try to reduce his child support and me fighting back. He in turn hid assets and such, making the amount of child support very little for 2 children. O.K., whatever. I dealt with it because I wasn't greedy and I made a decent salary. We weren't living extravegently like the ass, but we made it. If you ask me, it taught the teens some character, which the ass lacks. So, having said this.... On one hand, I feel like the shoe is on the other foot. Let him force me to do as the courts say, just as I did him. But then, I feel guilty...
Dammit!!
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Posted by selfcentered on 2008-09-23 13:24:48 | Rating: | Views: 24
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SC...He is 19, is he entitled to child support?? I would think not. He is a legal adult and he should get a job at this point if he needs money. Don't feel guilty..you have raised him to this point. I think I would have the attorney address this with the ex..maybe he could draw up a letter for you.. Hmmm..I wouldn't send him another penny to help with your son. Let him see what it is like. Good Luck!!
peace :) shemelts
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Posted by shemelts
on 2008-09-23 13:30:12
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I would hold the money until the courts (or attorney) say you have to give it. Force the ass to make the son work!!!
So your paying them and giving gas money? Wow!
No offence but between ass and your money why would the boy work?
Also I've heard even if you have signed copies our childsupport system will assume it's a gift if they don't get to process it and keep their stupid poundage fee out of it!
He's great at taking you to court. If he thinks he is so intitled to this money don't you think he'd already have it in writing??? I'd say so. Isn't that what the case is about?
If you show you've been paying it and it wasn't a problem then maybe they will think you agree it's your job and make you continue.
I'd stop sending it until told otherwise!
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Posted by anotherdaze
on 2008-09-23 16:07:59
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shemelts: Yes, as long as he is in college, he is entitled to child support until the day he turns 21 years old. We are currently in court, because ass tried to get me to sign off on some stupid shit. See previous blogs. I keep telling myself don't send him another penny, but then the guilt sets in. Grrrrr
anotherdaze: Love the new profile pic! I totally agree with you. I ask my son everytime I email/text him and see him, if he has a job yet. Seriously, if he is only going to school 2 1/2 days a week, that's even more of a reason he should be working. I guess that is another reason why son moved in with the ass, because mom made him work. I have made a notation on the memo line on every check I've sent that it is for teens son's support, hopefully that covers me.
I have decided once the court sets an amount, I will request that the payment goes directly to our son and bypasses his dad. Apparently, this can be done, but must be requested. I don't know...it's all so....stupid.... Seriously, child support on a 19 year old kid? I can understand college expenses, but child support?! On a kid that goes to school only 2 1/2 days a week. Grrrrr
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Posted by selfcentered
on 2008-09-23 17:18:59
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Guilt!!!! I hate that word! You're doing fine and I agree teen son should have a job...even McDonalds!
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Posted by lastblastkl
on 2008-09-28 19:32:09
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