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I was trying to avoid being served for the next 30 days so that I could cough up with some money to pay an attorney. Coughing isn’t working, so now I’m going to try gaging. I’m on the phone last night after work dealing with teen girl drama, again. Nothing new there!! The doorbell rings and my precious toddler runs and opens the door. Oh gee…. Turns out after reading the papers, they can now simply leave them in your mailbox. Nice, huh? Where was that option years ago when I had to have the ass served numerous times to make him do as he was suppose to do by his children. Mind you, these times were always in response to some case he had filed against me.
I suppose his attorney must have told him everything he wanted was not going to happen. Originally, he wanted to drop health insurance on our teen daughter. Now he wants to continue carrying medical coverage on our daughter. Mind you there is a $2,500.00 deductible every year, in addition to a $3,000.00 mental health deductible every year. Lovely, since my teen girl needs ongoing therapy. He agrees to 50% of all uncovered medical expenses. O.K. That’s not too bad.
Then he wants me to pay child support on our 19 year old son that moved into his house 2 months ago. Mind you, he has not made this kid get a job to even pay for the gas in his car. He claimed that he is paying 80.00 per month on car insurance for teen son. Hmmm… I was paying $45.00 per month for his insurance when he lived at home. *Liar* Yes, I will point out lies when it comes to the ass, because my attorney and I have proved many times over that he lies constantly. Then he claimed that he paying $70.00 a month on teen son’s cell phone. Hmmm, they are on a family plan for $150.00 a month for 4 people. *Liar* How is teen son’s portion of cell bill more then ¼ of bill. Oh wait, teen son spends 10-12 hours on phone with girls from other states (during 1 call)….yes, can you believe?! I’m sure this is one reason teen son says he does not have time to work. I can’t even outline all the expenses he claims he now has with teen son living with him. Wonder how much the monthly expense is for the parties and alcohol that he buys for teen son and friends? Amazingly though, he didn’t think teen son was so expensive to raise when he was paying me $190.00 a month for child support. Cute, huh?
The papers state that I either pay child support for teen son, or that no child support is exchanged between us because he has 1 child and I have the other. Hmmm, other child is still a minor. Not to mention, other child in my custody has ADHD, which means it will take her longer to go through college (if she even makes it to college), as least that is what I have read in child support guidelines on the web. He also wants me to pay 50% of teen son’s college expenses. Papers never mention teen daughter’s college expenses. Mind you, I never once denied that I would assist in college expenses. However, since he is taking this through court, I will ask that they base the percentage on our salaries.
Mind you, based on last years salary, he makes $30,000.00 more then I do each year. He lives in a house that is worth more then twice the one that I own, drives a vehicle that is much more expensive, takes trips to Jamica every single year (for his sex capades), goes to the lake every weekend to spend time on his boat and constantly lies about his salary and hides his assets. Now, do you think I am going to agree to no child support exchanged between the 2 of us? They can set child support amounts based on our salaries with notes on when child support obligations will end, based on the children’s age. Don’t get me wrong, I am not envious of his lifestyle. You couldn’t pay me to live on the same street as this physco, even if I could afford it. Besides that, even thinking of still being with the man makes me want to vomit.
So far, every time he has taken me to court, it has backfired on him. I can only hope that the court see’s through him once again and things turn out in my favor, again. Timing couldn’t have been any better though. Nothing like being the one parent that has stood by my teen daughter (fighting for support for her, which rightfully she deserves), just to have her to tell me she can’t wait to move out. Grrrrrr
Needless to say, my honey hit the roof last night. Pointed out to me that so far my son has basically said screw you for being a good parent, my teen daughter is now doing the same (taking advantage of me & disrespecting me the entire time) and how he can’t wait for the day when this mother f’r disappears from my life (I agree). Was ranting how he always comes at me in court, blah blah blah….How he is tired of it. The whole time I am thinking, well good….how about loaning me the money for an attorney. As if….. (SIGH).
My game plan to pay for the attorney is cashing in a Roth IRA to get me going. I only have 1 in my name, so getting funds this way again is not an option. We’ll see what happens after that. I know a measly $4,000.00 is not going to do it! Our first round in court cost me $12,000.00, 2nd round cost me $8,000.00, now this one. My honey even had to hire an attorney once because of the ass. He spent $3,000.00 on that round. Joy!!!! Will this ass ever go away?!?!
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Posted by selfcentered on 2008-08-08 12:14:54 | Rating: | Views: 66
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How is it that he expects childsupport on a 19 yr old boy? Does that really happen? You'd think the courts could see the boy obviously has time to party and be on the phone. Have the cell phone records ordered into court to prove this if they will hear it.
What happens if you have no attorney? If you seriously go in there looking like 'I'm broke and obviously he has all kinds of money to start court battles'?
My cousin's ex wife did that. She went into court crying that she had no money to hire an attorney and they socked the child support to my cousin! $800.00 a month on one kid! I know I'd be scared to go without someone too.
Tell the judge your paying for the mental health issues on an underage kid and need support. Make him look like the ass he is that he has money to hire an attorney while disputing he has the money to pay support for your daughter. I'd also let it be known the kids can't have college savings because this ass wants to drag you into court all the time. Would or could they make him pay the attorney fees for you since he wants to make a habbit of this?
Honestly it seems the worst that can happen is that you will pay the %50 on the medical and mental health as you alread do. Maybe not get child support but if you are always paying these fees for court maybe it would cost you less to not get the support? You have the minor child so will they really press you to pay for college while your taking care of a teen that needs support?
I'm not saying don't help your son but it seems like they would concider her priority. Also I'd be more willing to help the boy if he was willing to help himself. Obviously if you ex has that nice of a house he could refinance it for the son's college expenses couldn't he?
Hope I didn't confuse you more. I think I've confused myself. Ha!
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Posted by anotherdaze
on 2008-08-08 17:07:33
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Apparently, if a child stays in school, child support is ordered until they turn 22. However, my son moved into a friend of his house before moving to his dad's, so I am not sure how that will play into it. I love my son, but the reason he moved out...get this.....because I kept after him to do his chores. He never had time to do his chores, according to him. His schedule was too busy. Not to mention, I would not put the internet in his room - because he would not do his chores. He told me how unfair that was because he could be on the internet at night while everyone was sleeping, but he couldn't do his chores at night because he would wake us up. LOL.... yeah.....So, he has internet at dad's house and doesn't have to do chores or work! Shoot me for trying to raise him right!
In this state, you really get screwed if you do not come to court with an attorney. Apparently, the one he hired is a real go getter. Interestingly enough, he always hires women attornies. His first one told my attorney after dealing with him, do what you want, I can't help him. The second one he hired swore she would never represent him again. It's only a matter of time before he makes this one mad as well.
They never make the other person pay attorney fee's here, trust me, I have tried. If it is not me he has in court, he is always suing someone for something or paying to have his DWI charges lowered.
I just don't know what to expect. I can't really go talk to my attorney yet until I cash in the Roth. I've had the same attorney in each case, so we shall see. He would never refinance his house for his son, that is why he wants me to pay. He likes to throw up the fact that he has a nice house, car, etc...kind of like, look what you could have had if you had stayed in the game. No thanks, I would rather live in a shack or a cardboard box for that matter. No doubt in my mind though, once all this goes through, he will make my son get a job and start paying his own insurance and cell phone bill, then keep the support for himself.
I wonder now, since my son lives with him, if he actually take him on a vacation since he has never in all these years....well, except to the lake where he takes them to party cove to see naked girls. Grrrrr
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Posted by selfcentered
on 2008-08-08 17:50:12
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Well it sounds like a load of horse shit! Excuse me for saying.
Like I said I'd be more inclined to help a son that was trying to work at helping himself. Then again why should he bother when he has the dad petting him???
I feel for you. I just wish you could use that money for something constructive like the help the daughter needs or a nice vacation for yourself. Sounds like you need savings at all times to keep for your next court case! Ouch!
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Posted by anotherdaze
on 2008-08-09 08:11:09
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Yeah, you would have thought I would have figured that one out by now. If I had only know back in June that I would be in court again, I wouldn't have taken the family to Disney. That was our first vacation in years! Grrr... Oh well, the teens had a blast. It'll be our last vacation for years to come. It'll take some recouping after this go around in court.
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Posted by selfcentered
on 2008-08-11 10:28:59
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my child support ends on the 18th birth day or when they graduate high school. unless your decree states other wise, I do not see how they can make you pay child support, but the courts can so what ever they want to. That is our stupid legal system, the one with the most expencive and best lawyers can get it to do what ever they want it to do.
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Posted by afathermissingthe...
on 2008-08-12 14:25:08
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