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Now that I have calmed down a bit from the last appointment I had with my attorney, I thought I would blog with some of the things I have learned.
Teen son moved out of my house 12 weeks prior to moving into his father’s house. He moved in with a friend in the neighborhood. I had no clue he had planned to move out. I came home from work one day and every thing in his room was gone, his house key left on his desk. For weeks, I did not know where he was staying, nor did his dad. For some reason it was a big secret. He refused to tell us.
I ran into numerous friends of his over the weeks. Ironically, they made it a point to tell me where he was. Maybe they thought he handled the situation wrong as well. He moved out because he was upset that he had to do a 10 minute chore a day. His reasoning was that we were being unreasonable, because he did not have time for chores. I find it amazing what he did have time for.
During these 12 weeks, I continued to buy his clothing, pay for school activities, school lunches and other odds and ends. I didn’t want to put any financial pressure on him that would make him drop out of school. Sad part about, he never found the time to visit with me, but once. I sent the money/checks to school with his younger sister to pass along to him. He was working during this time, but not making much, paying for the gas and insurance on his vehicle. His father paid for his cell phone. Heck, when I ask for a visit now, he always tells me he is out of gas. (Looking for an offer for money)!
At the end of the 12 weeks, he quit his job and moved in with his dad. There are other reasons, besides the chores, that he wanted to live with his dad, which I have posted in other blogs. So basically because I chose to be a good parent (in my eyes), have rules and such, he wanted out. It doesn’t matter that the courts awarded me full, legal custody of this kid, not once, but twice. He was 18 at this point, considered an adult, so he could decide where he wants to live. I had no say so. Amazing, in this state, kids can decide this at the age of 14. It doesn’t matter what the other parent’s legal records are. It doesn’t matter that the court awarded one parent full, legal custody. Nothing matters, but what the child wants.
Now, one would think if a kid can make the decision to move out of his parent’s house at the age of 18, then they should be emancipated, right? Wrong! There are only 3 things that will emancipate a child at the age of 18, if they do not go to college. They go into the military, get married, or are self supporting. Hmmm… Now, his father doesn’t live far enough away from me that teen son quitting his job was warranted. I know his dad, he did his research. He agreed to son quitting his job because it in his favor on being able to collect child support on teen son. Mark my word, the minute this court thing is over, ass will make son get a job.
Here’s another kicker. Teen son spends so much time in my neighborhood. He misses his friend’s, states that on his myspace all the time. He is constantly in my neighborhood staying with this friend or that friend. The kicker is, teen son can stay with friend’s 29 days, but as long as he stays at his dad’s house the 30th day, child support still is due and payable. Which, ass simply signs child support checks and hands them to teen son.
I cannot stress enough; I have no problem paying for college for any of my children. But, I feel I am being punished for being a good parent. If ass were a good parent, he would have stood behind me in having rules and such for teen son. Teen son made the decision to move out of my house, he and his dad can figure out how to cover his college expenses once he turns 21. Am I wrong on that? It still floors me that teen son wants to live there knowing that his dad tried to get me to sign off on us paying not more then $300.00 per year, per child for college expenses.
As of today, teen son’s girlfriend has moved to this state. She is going to room with a friend of my sons. Teen daughter drops hints here and there to let me know that teen son may possible move in with his girlfriend at some point. If this a fact, or just speculation, I don’t know. Basically, this kid is causing both parents to spend thousands in attorney’s fees, and he may possibly be moving out of his dad’s house as well?! If he does, I sure hope his dad gets the same respect I did. I hope he moves out without a notice.
This whole thing is a crock of shit, if you ask me. Ass is being a buddy to teen son, simply to pay me back for him paying child support on his children in the past. I have had numerous people point this out to me, asking me how teen son likes being used as a pawn to punish me. It’s obvious to many people that this is exactly what is going on. Not to mention, when ass had me served with papers he stated that I would pay for taking his money over the years. All you can do it feel sorry for the ass, he truly is pathetic. If this case were truly a legit case, I probably wouldn't be angry about it.
Oh, my work got served with a subpoena yesterday for my salary information. Funny thing, none of his previous attorney’s felt the need to subpoena these records. I guess what I have heard about his attorney is true. She takes your money in one hand and simply stamps your papers with the other, she doesn’t like to put effort into her clients. Good, he deserves it. His previous attorney’s simply called for the information.
Ha, while I’m on the roll, his previous attorney’s won’t represent him. The first attorney he had, which was a one hell of a bulldog, called my attorney one day and said…”do what you have to do to this man, I cannot help him”…Ass kept going against her advise and pulling crap, demanding she handle his case the way he wanted it, not by what the laws stated. His second attorney stopped me and my attorney in the halls at the courthouse one day and stated, “I will never represent this man again, ever.” Ha ha…wonder how long it will take this attorney to figure the ass out.
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Posted by selfcentered on 2008-10-10 11:28:32 | Rating: | Views: 36
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keep your head up and just keep doing what you need to do to move forward and not look back. Some day both will come to thier sences and grow up. i know I have been in both places and do know that it will get better. good luck
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Posted by afathermissingthe...
on 2008-10-10 15:40:02
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