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Today is September 28, 2008 and I still haven't heard from Leigha. I guess she got what she wanted and now sayanara. I tried to call her today since I haven't heard from her and she didn't answer and the voicemail was full, and their not all from me I know. I guess she just wanted to get one last chunk of money from me. I just don't understand how some women can use a guy like that. She said she was leaving after the kids got out of school. What a fucking liar. Lie lie lie lie. I thought I would atleast give her the opportunity to explain it but she's to big a coward.
It's kind of funny in a way though. How I actually feel sorry for her in a way now because of how badly she must be screwed up to do this kind of thing. What a sorry excuse for a person.
I know everyone has said she was seeing someone and was the whole time I was paying her shit for her. Since she moved back to Ardmore I took care of her, payed her rent, utilities, phone, gifts, you name it. And since she did get evicted for not paying the rent I can only imagine where that money went. I think 5 months worth? Well broken heart, a near heart attack, lonely nights, and what's now 37 grand later I guess I finally hit bottom and just finally saying fuck it. Who cares anymore. A goodbye call would have been nice though, but instead just silence. Cold. Oh well.
Her loss, not mine. I've been there for her the whole way from the get go and if she doesn't see the value in me than she is not only sick but stupid on top of it. That's what I am beginning to realize, because of the way people have been there to support me through this ridiculous charade. Theyv'e been beating it into my head that she will never realize what she missed out on, and that I wouldn't have any problem finding someone who would jump at the chance to fill her shoes, not just because of what I did for her, but who I am as a person, how I treat the person i'm with, like a queen, and damn were they right. It's starting to sink in now, and maybe that's why i'm able to deal with it easier. 113 e-mails and my phone ringing off the hook doesn't hurt either. Ha! :)
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Posted by seether on 2008-09-28 23:58:57 | Rating: | Views: 65
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wow. it is amazing what some women are capable of with no regards or emotion to the other persons feelings. a woman like that is not worth losing sleep over let alone to wait for an apologetic phone call. the only thing left to do is move on. i know sometimes it can be hard because of the feelings that developed in the relationship but you seem like a strong well grounded person. keep your head up. good luck to you.
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Posted by moniL
on 2008-09-29 01:45:04
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Scott..You are not alone. There are a lot of women who do this to men. The most important thing at this point is for you to put a stop to this. Do not send her any money. Love does not equal money..and her assuring you she will come back if you help her with this expense or that one, is just wrong. I am guessing that she found you an easy target. We teach people how to treat us, and your continuation of handing her money is telling her that you are okay with it. Don't accept her excuses any longer. If she can not even have the decency to let you know she is still alive and not laying in a ditch somewhere, she is unworthy of your time and energy. I know it is difficult to move past this sort of thing, but at this point, I see no other choice. Surround yourself with friends ,talk out your feelings and write to help you deal with the pain. A decent man deserves a decent woman..Take care of you.
peace :) shemelts
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Posted by shemelts
on 2008-09-29 06:52:42
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I can understand how disappointed and resentful can be when you keep giving but turns out to be nothing. Let's take another approcah to look back. Now, you get nothing to worry, as you clearly see her true colours. You don't need to find way to hold the relationship, don't need to care what she feels.....Everything is bright and clear, though it's heartbreaking, it's exactly a chance for you to take your own steps and start a new journey now. And until one day you will say 'not a big deal'
Take care.:)
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Posted by winnieice
on 2008-09-29 11:04:01
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Hey Scott,
You don't need her, if she has done that, see her for what she is. I did like her little touch of blogging how much she loved you though. You don't want that.
If she's showing you what she's really like believe her. See the value in yourself and strive for better.
Walk away from the drama that's ensued and be all you can be.
You are more than worthy of a person who will give you what you give them.
Easy2Say right?
TRUE, you will be great, because you are decent, caring person, you've given her chances, now it's your turn to get your own chances, and be happy again.
I wish you only the best Scott.
Hugs and strength sent your way :)
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-09-29 17:47:54
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I totally agree with "shemelts", you were an easy target, she got her money, used and abused you (sorry, harsh, but true). My husband has a friend whom I like too who is going through a similar situation with a woman, they have 3 children, but are not married. She is using him to no end. People like this (men/women)have no conscience, are selfish and usually have no confidence in themselves, thus they have to use those around them for what they need.
I'm glad your coming around, it takes time to heal. Another word of advice, don't shower a woman with money by paying her way, if she truly loves YOU she won't need it or request it. good luck to you my friend...
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Posted by over40
on 2008-10-01 07:42:49
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