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"To know what's important, try to imagine your life without it!" - Richard Bach.
As we head towards Chritsmas and New year, I just wonder what is important to you? Do you know? Have you paused to think, to really think about that? Or are you too filled up with stress and all caught up in the trivial day to day stuff of your life?
It's not just the Holiday/ Yule and New year season when we should consider what is important of course, we should do it all year long. Every day, for every decision we make, every disappointment we experience, every thing we think we want, every gift we get - Everything!
For me, I'm increasingly becoming more and more aware of what is important to me, although sometimes, I do need reminded, just like anyone else. Im not perfect and Im not preaching something here that Im not prepared to do myself. Its just important that we remember to see and appreciate what is really important to us, rather than waste a lot of energy on things that are of less significance in our lives.
As I am discovering, people are important but not to a greater extent than before. I still care about people, even though I sometimes get angry and wound up at them. I care for them all, simply because they are humans. I even care about those that a lot of people don't. The criminals, the lost, the drug addicts, the foolish, the alcoholics. They are all people, they all have a Spirit inside and God created them all, just as he made you and I. When I look at those who have chosen to follow a different path to me in life, I simply think that, "There but for the grace of God, go I". I don't have to like what they have done, or agree with their choices (and I dont) but I dont have to look down on them or treat them with contempt either. As most will know, Im not realigious but even I can offer my form of 'prayer' for them in their lives (and I do).
Out of all the people in the world though, I care most about one - my wife, Danielle. This special woman, above all others, has had the power and ability to turn my entire world upside down and take my life off in a new direction which I could never even have dreamed of. It's said that women may (and do) try to change men but in my case this hasn't been a bad thing. Yes, she has changed me, but not into what she wants, into a more rounded, whole person.
She has brought out parts of me that were euither deeply buried or which I didn't even know existed. She is a teacher, and she has taught me a helluva lot, and I am grateful for every part of it. None of us are perfect but Danielle and I simply 'fit'. We are genuinely complementary to each other and, although we may not always see eye to eye on everything, we do find a compromise to the parts that dont gel so easily. Where she is good with math, she is less of a reader/ writer. Im good with words, crap with numbers but I love reading/ writing, as you might have noticed. We complement each others weaknesses through our strengths, while not losing anything of ourselves in the process. Thats how we work, thats how we do it and it works well.
She is a teacher, as I have said and loves kids, and I know she will make a wonderful mother to our kids, when we get 'em. I was never a 'kiddie person' to begin with but she has even positively changed me in that respect and now it's just a case of 'we're trying for our own'. (Wish us luck in that respect please!) :)
This is the girl I was waiting for most of my life and the wait has very definitely been worth it. We've been together two years and from the very beginning, we just 'felt right'. There was no awkward silences, no 'mismatches', we were (and are) good together. It was a natural progression for us to get married and I knew early on in our relationship that we would be together, thankfully she did too.
It was always going to be difficult since I am from Scotland and it takes ages to get through all the red tape and BS (when you do it the legal way!!). The consensus of opinion from the authorities is still that A) Anyone marrying a US Citizen "must" be doing it just to get a green card and/ or B) Any US citizen marrying a foreigner "must" have been paid to do it. Yes, that's stupid but yes that's how they look at it. That has been our experience so far at least. It is beyond the understanding of the 'powers that be' that anyone could actually want to just get married and be together because they are actually in Love with each other!
Danielle is THE most important thing to me though. All the red tape, the BS, the obstacles that get in the way are nothing more than small 'speed bumps' to us. It has taken me years to find her and I sure as hell aint letting her go again. (She is a few years younger than me so, in some ways, I have also been waiting for her to 'grow up' too, though we didn't get together until she was legal lol)
I do have family back in the UK of course, but they are all grown up, with their own lives established (Im the "baby"! ;P) and while they are important, they are secondary only to my wife. I love the family, because family IS important, but Danielle is my family now and I have been fully accepted as a new part of hers, so I also have an extended family here too.
It's important also to make sure that you give the right importance to what you hold as important, got that? lol What that means is that, I enjoy thinking every day of ways to show Danielle just how happy she makes me and how much I love her and feel blessed to have her as my wife and as the major part of my life. I'm not sure whether I always do a sufficient job at that but I can only keep trying to be a good husband and, hopefully later, a good father too.
What I have, what WE have, I am glad we have together and wish that more people could enjoy the same. Those alcoholics, etc., I spoke of earlier for example. With just a bit more love and care perhaps they would never have become who they are? The important things in life now, to me, are less anything physical or material and increasingly more the things that even the Rockefellers, with all their amassed wealth, still could never buy. And THATS whats important.
With Danielle at my side, with the love we share, with the friends I have made here, with my beliefs and my ability (and love) of writing - I AM the richest man alive, and happy for this wealth too. I trust, hope and pray that all of you will see and know and appreciate what is important to you.
Happy Holidays everyone!!
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Posted by scotslad60 on 2007-12-23 12:25:32 | Rating: | Views: 133
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Nice post hun, and thank you. I consider myself to be a lucky chick too, having found you. I love you.
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Posted by Forgetmeknot
on 2007-12-23 13:16:08
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oh, how sweet was that!
Scotslad, you and your wife are so lucky!
may I add
forgetmenot is not only great with math, she also, like you, has a way with words.
Have a wonderful holiday you two, Im so glad we had a chance to meet! I loved your words before, but now they have so much more meaning.
Happy Holidays.
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Posted by roe
on 2007-12-23 23:18:13
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Thanks for making me believe in the happily ever after, Jim. You guys are truly blessed.
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Posted by Pauligan
on 2007-12-27 07:38:06
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Thanks Roe. I agree the words do have more meaning when you know the person behind them a little better.
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Posted by scotslad60
on 2007-12-27 09:26:11
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Thanks scar. We can but try huh? :)
Peace to you too.
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Posted by scotslad60
on 2007-12-27 09:27:24
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The happily ever after does exist paul. I didnt believe it either but here I am. :)
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Posted by scotslad60
on 2007-12-27 09:28:06
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Good things come to those who wait and you two are deserving of one of the blessed gifts of all - true love! I am so happy for the two of you. You make my soul smile!
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Posted by Jesusmyvision
on 2008-01-01 00:19:36
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