Posted by
Meredith
on 2008-04-11 11:52:10 |
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| Reading your post, I could almost feel your emotions. I am so sorry things didn't go as planned. Is this about one of your children? Unfortunately, most children don't appreciate their parents until they grow up but I am sure that he/she loves you with all of his/her heart. And, more importantly, knows how much you love him/her. |
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Posted by
pitapie50
on 2008-04-11 12:34:10 |
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| Sometimes our children's need for independence is like a kick in the teeth. I hear you loud and clear :) Trying to do something nice for them, just to have it blow up and takes on a monstrous proportion just stinks. Of course we don't know anything. Hang in there Roe I'm sure your heart was in the right place...maybe they just weren't ready to accept it yet :) |
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Posted by
Faith
on 2008-04-11 16:09:01 |
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| I'm sorry for whatever pain you going through. I don't have any kids. My mom had alot of trouble with me. We had alot of blowups. Still do sometimes. But I appreciate everything she did and still does for me. Your kid will to. Reading your blogs I know what a special person you are and you couldn't have but the best of intentions. Hang in there. |
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Posted by
BootLady
on 2008-04-12 11:20:57 |
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Tell "this person" how you feel, Roe. Tell them about your good intentions and about how their rejection of your efforts made you feel. I speak from experience here. If you can say out loud to them how much they've hurt you, it will open the door to them telling you why they think you are interfering. With my kid, it turned out that he felt I was always trying to "improve" him or "correct" him. Once all of it was said out loud, we each understood each other much better. Now we can disolve any misunderstandings by just telling each other how we perceived the other's actions. Sometimes we do things with certain intentions and they're taken almost exactly the opposite.
All I can add is be patient. Understand that "this person" is about to embark into the great unknown. It's a HUGE uncertain step for a kid. Terrifying, really. You need to provide the anchor right now, not the push. I wish you patience and luck. If you ever want to talk to someone who's been there (twice), you know where to find me. |
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Posted by
BootLady
on 2008-04-12 11:27:18 |
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| PS - "This person" also needs to understand how it feels for you to be launching your heart out into the world unprotected! It's probably the hardest thing for a parent to do. |
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Posted by
overthehillandfaraway
on 2008-04-12 11:59:18 |
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| Roe - I wrote a long reply to your post this morning but it has vanished into cyberspace. Anyway, the gist of it was that when, and I believe it is your daughter, does leave home, she will have time to reflect and then, like a bolt of lightning, it will strike home. You were, and are, the best Mum ever. I know, because I, too, was once that Mum. |
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Posted by
roe
on 2008-04-13 14:20:14 |
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| hey, thanks everyone, your comments are full of wise words, this is just another reason I blab! |
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