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So hubby and I have been married for five years now and we don’t have kids. Our families and friends and even just random acquaintances seem to think that this makes us an odd couple in a way, because doesn’t everyone want kids right after they get married? This is especially true of my mother, who began hounding us for a grandchild the day after we got married. My mother in law did wait until our 5th anniversary before she said too much, but I’ve definitely heard more from her lately. Anyway…

In recent conversations with various people in my life I’ve kept hearing a date pop up. Early 2010. Why? Because this is the year when I will finish college. My expected graduation date is going to be May 13, 2010 to be exact. So the good intentioned people looked for and found conversational openings whenever I mentioned how long I’d been married or that so and so that we work with had a cute baby and would add that maybe hubby and I should have one. I always would remind them that I’m going to school this fall and it won’t (deliberately) happen anytime soon because of that. Then they would nod and point out that I graduate in May so if we starting trying sometime early in 2010 if I got pregnant right away I’d just be finishing up my last semester. I heard it from I don’t even know how many people. And I thought about it a bit. And I’ve slowly worked my way to admitting to myself that I can handle having a baby and that yes I even want one around at some point in my life. Sooner rather than later, but not too soon. For a long time anyone said baby and I ran in the other direction. I’m better now.

So the other day, as hubby and I were sitting in the Drs. office waiting for his appointment I mentioned the conversations and the date to him. I fully expected it to be shrugged off or “whatever”ed. So imagine my surprise when he says to me, “Yeah that seems like a good time. Maybe even as early as October 2009.” “Ummmm…ummm” Yeah, such a great response, but he threw me a total curveball there. It hasn’t come up since then, except that we’ve decided to not share baby’s name with our families and that my mom is going to get an email list of the worst baby names we can come up with. Mostly because she is determined that if we have a little girl that her middle name will be Lou like mine and hers and her mothers. I have already decided otherwise and will not be carrying the name on because there are other important people in my life that I’m choosing to name a baby girl after. So that’s that. If anyone can think of any baby names to share that are a terrible combination with Lou or are just plain bad, let me know. I want this list to be rather long and extensive and I have lots of time to plan. *eg*