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I have to admit, that I am a bit old-fashioned. I appreciate the freedom granted by internet, the limitless possibilities and so on, but it has some serious drawbacks. Seriously serious.
When I was little, arguing with people was most commonly done somewhere outside/inside, in the park, at home, but always eyes to eyes. We all know how it’s done. When somebody was mad at me, he or she usually shouted for a couple of minutes. Right in front of me. Not 4000 miles away, in front of the computer, simultaneously watching YOUTUBE videos. Somehow I can’t accept it. What is even more frustrating is being dumped. I’ve been through break-ups via the phone, SMS and e-mail, but that last one was something rather hilarious than heartbreaking. He’d blocked my Skype account. I honestly was amused. He’s not exactly a boyfriend, was rather a friend that I cared too much for. Anyway. My point is that after the initial shock I was a bit sad about it, and then I realized that if with one single button someone can erase a person from his life and believe that everything is completely over, than something must be very wrong and completely messed up. Now I am expecting to be removed from his friend list on ‘Facebook’. But in that case the surprise-effect will be gone. So I am completely speechless. Something is VERY wrong these days…
    Posted by ralsoluty on 2009-08-15 07:01:10 | Rating: | Views: 28
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Anger envelops our hurts to protect us from the piercing wounds we may feel. This has been for as long as people have been people. It is not different today. He is angry and so erasing you at the moment comforts him. But where does that leave you? Standing alone, without your friend. Friends are formed by these ravages of the heart; if there is patience, if there is time, if there is love, the friendship deepens. If not, then the possibility flies away on the wind. The friends that I have are people who worked anger and hurt through with me. Sometimes it took a few years.
Posted by  greunie  on 2009-08-15 08:43:21 
  
I really don't know what to do. On one hand, I want to leave him alone and to let him breathe and think about it. On the other, I want to talk to him, to explain that not everything is the way it seems, but I know that he won't listen and believe me. Either choices seem wrong to me. I can wait and do nothing and blame myself for standing away or reminding him of myself, and feeling sorry for hurting him. Stuck.
Posted by  ralsoluty  on 2009-08-15 16:52:28 
  
Give him some space. A little while. Then try again. He will miss you and then he may be more open to listen... Right now, he is blocked to your words by his anger which is protecting his heart from feeling the hurt in its entirety. As the hurt leaks into his soul, he will know that he hurts because he loves you. If it's possible write him a note saying that you are not far away, thinking of him.

And sometimes, sad to say, forgiveness from the person who is hurt, is not possible... it is here that the difficult work of forgiving yourself begins. Been there... so been there!
Posted by  greunie  on 2009-08-15 17:36:30 
  
Practically, all I can do is just write him an e-mail. It is funny how one of the means I criticise is the only way to reach him. But I am still searching for words that won't sound stupid and useless... And to admit it, I an scared to death that he will reject me.
Thanks for the words, you are constantly giving me hope. Hugs!
Posted by  ralsoluty  on 2009-08-15 17:50:03 
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