| LADIES, (AND GENTS) DON'T APOLOGIZE 2!! |
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We don't have to apologize for having a standard. We all are a sum total of our personal experiences. With experiences come LESSONS LEARNED. With lessons learned we develop standards or a way of decision making for the best outcomes. That is a normal progression of growth and development.
Nobody wants to lay around hurting or in pain their whole life. Everybody has a need to feel happy and whole. They key is knowing that everyone's level of maturity or growth is not the same. That poses a challenge. Because MATURITY OR LACK OF MATURITY can cause strain on relationships. Then decisions have to be made about what the relationship will BE OR not BE.
Let's face it. Trying to be something that you're not doesn't work anyway. You just become a phony. A phony even to yourself. It's not an easy road. I've had relationships that I wanted to keep, but I had to let go because they were just draining the life out of me. I've had relationships where my standard caused us not to even understand each other. Sometimes you can feel alone, But alone doesn't have to be a bad thing...If you realize that you can be with someone and miserable. I'll take alone anyday over a HEADACHE relationship!! (smile)
PEOPLE HAVE INSECURITIES YALL! And we can't make up for what they didn't get in childhood. We can't make up for low-self esteem in somebody. They've got to fight that battle on their own. Insecurity shows itself in many forms like control, manipulation, and dominance. Men and women struggle with it. That's what Jesus came to handle....all my security issues.
I've learned new relationships do come. I also learned that I'm teaching a good lesson to my children. They're watching and recording. I've learned that admitting to being a people pleaser set me free! Because I was able to get the help that I needed and stop living for everyone else but me.
Hope this helps.
Katrina
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